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How does one sort the difference between natural intuition and mental over analyzing?

Published: Jul 30, 2009 - 06:55 AM

"About a month ago I felt that way again. When someone said to me: "I wouldn't change anything about you."
I told him that was one of the nicest things I'd ever been told. I lied. It was the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me. And if you really wanna know, that right there is why I love him. Not because he does things for me, or tells me that I'm beautiful (even at those times when I look absolutely horrible) or because he fucks me really good. It's because he likes me the way I am. Fat or Thin. Beautiful or Ugly. Brand name shoes or 12 dollar Payless kicks. "

I said this two weeks ago in a blog pertaining to my boyfriend. It still holds true, he's given me no signs that his feelings have changed, except perhaps a little bit of a cooling of our passions and a slowing of our displays of affection, but I suppose this is normal. I'm nineteen years old and he is twenty. My stepmother announced two days ago that my presence in my fathers house is no longer acceptable to her. I sort of knew it was coming, when suddenly I came back from visiting a relative and all my posters had been packed away and slowly most of my other things ended up in bags and suitcases. When I told Gary about it, I couldn't help but cry, knowing that I'd have to leave my father because I do love him terribly. Gary took it upon himself to ask his mother (who likes me quite a bit) if I could stay with them. I don't want to. I don't want to suffocate him. Well that's not the point, listen to me ramble on about the circumstances lol. What I want to know is...when I notice these little drops in our passion for each other, is it my intuition telling me that he's losing interest? Or is it simply my mind reading too much into it? It's important for me to know, because if it's just my mind playing tricks on me, then I should feel less frightened of losing him if I move in with him, god knows I'm resourceful enough to find my own place, but times a factor here. I love him absolutely to death, and would devastated by the loss of him. Is it my own fear of losing him that twists my perception to make it seem as though he's already grown bored of me? And because of that warped idea I can conclude that moving in with him would exacerbate the situation? Thus making it seem justifiable to refuse his mothers generous offer? Or is it something more? Could these things I notice be my intuition telling me that he's slipping through my fingers? How does one tell the difference?

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