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CFaithAnnW
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Post subject: 3889
 Posted: Mar 05, 2007 - 06:00 AM
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| Well, I have a b/f who i love to death. He is my world. He knows that i have been into girls before and that I am bi. Latly all that i can think about is woman. Not anybody in particular but just being with a woman. Watching lesbian porn can turn me on faster than any man could. Dont get me wrong the sex is great! I feel as if im confused about my sexuality. Can somebody help me and give me some words of wisdom? [addsig] |
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Lauren
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Post subject: 3915
Posted: Mar 07, 2007 - 02:57 AM
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I have a couple of friends who have gone through this one, so maybe I can help a little.
I have never been attracted to men so I have been able to develop my own sexuality accordingly, if you are attracted to men and to women in a sexual way, then you have a more complicated situation to deal with.
The internet has been resposible for bringing lesbian behaviour to the masses in a graphic way, this has lead to many women experimenting and discovering if they are in fact lesbians or not, but it has also lead to a kind of trendy swing thing that can be fun I guess, but may also bring about real problems.
If you think about men sexually at times, and other women sexually at times, then it may be that you are Bi curious, and you may prove to be happy with this or you may feel the need to sort out this emotion.
If you find that you can have a serious relationship with a woman, and not just a grrls sleep over type exciting experience that leaves you all tingling but has you running back to a boy friend, then you will soon discover, or you should soon discover, if you are a lesbian or not.
I make no value judgements what so ever, but I believe that one should decide which way the mop flops, I can't help feeling that a bi situation is like having a bet each way and never making a commitment; when it comes to sharing another human being's life and emotions, I believe it helps to have a firm commitment in mind.
Please believe me when I say that I do not judge anyone here, I simply tell it as I see it.
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sed26
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Post subject: 3922
Posted: Mar 07, 2007 - 09:24 PM
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I'm gonna say this from a strong male's opinion. If I were your boyfriend, and I found out that you were into women and perhaps caught you with another woman, I'd probably not like you and lose respect for you. Now if you came out and told me that you liked women and perhaps wanted a threesome or something, you'd be the best girlfriend ever! I see women on tv all the time not telling their mate that they are into other women when all the time nothing would make the man happier. Did you know that most men can only dream about women like you, you're missing out of the time of your life and you're making boyfriend suffer.
My point is, don't hog the women, share them.  For your boyfriend's sake, please don't hide it anymore, I'm sure he'd like it.
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Lauren
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Post subject: 3936
Posted: Mar 08, 2007 - 09:06 AM
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Well I guess that depends upon your definition of a "strong male" Sed26, you are talking about women as if they were a commodity or a piece of material to use in a sex project.
You may need to grow and develop a little more and learn to love and to like women as well as being merely sexually turned on by them.
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sed26
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Post subject: 3948
Posted: Mar 08, 2007 - 09:17 PM
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| It may seem that way but there's no reason to be in a relationship thinking that you like the same sex and not do anything about it. She should tell her boyfriend no matter how embarassed she may feel, otherwise its not worth them being together. I think her boyfriend wouldn't think its bad and maybe it would spice things up for the both of them. Obviously she's sexually frustrated(satisfied with her boyfriend but craves sex with another woman). That's nothing to take lightly. What women don't understand is men love just as much as they do I'd say more but we're not the ones to express our feelings because its not in our genetic makeup. She shouldn't just try to mask her bisexuality because at the end something will eventually happen so I think she should experiment and confirm what she really likes. So don't go judging me as for my comments when its for good intentions.[addsig] |
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CFaithAnnW
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Post subject: 3949
Posted: Mar 09, 2007 - 03:25 AM
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| My b/f dose indeed know that i am bi. Hes not interested in threesomes and neither am i. I have felt for woman before but they were into just sex... never anything else. So I have been with woman and i felt for woman the same way as i have felt for a man. This is a very confusing time for me right now. My b/f and the woman i have been with and a few close friends only know that i am bi. I do have a son and my ex his father and i are no longer together. Sex with him almost felt like rape. (hes the only man i have felt this way with) After we broke up I tried to find a respectable woman who wouldnt just want sex... i didnt do so well finding a woman when trying to keep the secrete from my family. Whom my father already disaproves of having a baby out of wedlock and not staying with him. (it was an aweful relationship) But I couldnt find the right woman for me (not into the butch type)... then i met my b/f now. I would hate to break up with him cause i found out i was a lesbian just now. And my father would have a COW. Im just confused i guess and in need of advice and encouragement.[addsig] |
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Lauren
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Post subject: 3951
Posted: Mar 09, 2007 - 12:59 PM
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OK CFaith' I really want to try to help here.
I am Lesbian and I live in Australia, which is a long ways from where you are, but I will try to be a friend and help.
The first thing I believe is that you have every right to your own sexuality and your own sex life, it is your life and your business and nothing to do with anyone else, your Father included.
You were 100% right to get out of the relationship with your child's father as you felt threatened, and you say that sex with him was like rape, you did the right thing not staying with him and the fact that you are not married doesn't mean a darn thing, your happiness and the happiness of your son is what matters.
If you have a good relationship with your b/f at present then go closer to him and love him and give it a chance to work out. If you find that you can't stop thinking about other women and wishing you had a sexual relationship with another woman, then you must tell your partner about these feelings and hope for a way to work it out, or get apart and start a new life.
It would be very unfair to live with him and give him the feeling that he is your only desire when all the time you are thinking of a woman, it is no different to thinking about and wanting another man.
I think it may be easier for me in a way, because I have never been interested in men, and of course, I have no children.
However, I have to live as a Lesbian in a world that is largely hetero sexual, and that is not easy at times. I am working in a job where I need to dress well at all times and I am reasonably attractive, this brings its problems when ever a guy finds me attractive because he does what comes natural to him and I have to discourage him without hurting his feelings or appearing nasty, sometimes (once or twice) I have had a problem, but mainly it works out.
I have a Sister who dates men and both she and my parents accept the fact that I am a Lesbian, if they didn't it would be hard for me, but I would never let their opinions cause me grief in my private life, I am who I am and they would have to accept it or reject it.
I truly feel for you CFaith' and I will answer any questions you want to fire at me, I only hope I can be of some help.
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Post subject: 3962
Posted: Mar 10, 2007 - 07:07 AM
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I know none of this is fare to my b/f and i feel horrible. Absolutly horrible. I love him so much but these feelings are almost over powering. Im just hoping that they will go away. I feel like a monster.  [addsig] |
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sed26
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Post subject: 3963
Posted: Mar 10, 2007 - 02:50 PM
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You have to tell him. It'll take a ton off your nerves. Those feelings will never go away, you can't just neglect them because they'll only grow stronger. I think you're mentally cheating on him.
I have a question.
Do you guys know when or how these feelings started to develop about liking other women?[addsig] |
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Post subject: 3968
Posted: Mar 11, 2007 - 03:09 AM
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| HE ALREADY KNOWS!!!! lol Try reading the posts. lol [addsig] |
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sed26
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Post subject: 3974
Posted: Mar 11, 2007 - 07:38 PM
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| I say break up for a while and persue your feelings of being with a woman. I'd rather a woman dump me and tell me straight up that you think about sex with other people, than to keep these feelings to herself and wasting time in the relationship.[addsig] |
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Post subject: 3975
Posted: Mar 12, 2007 - 01:17 AM
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| I dont want to do that i love him![addsig] |
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sed26
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Post subject: 3985
Posted: Mar 12, 2007 - 08:29 PM
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| It sounds like you're being selfish(no offense) but does he really deserve not to know? [addsig] |
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Lauren
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Post subject: 3987
Posted: Mar 13, 2007 - 12:10 AM
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Er...He already knows Sed26, you were told that in the last message.
If CFaith AnnW were being "selfish" as you claim, don't you think she would simply have taken the road that gave her personal pleasure and not even bothered addressing this forum?
I believe she is seeking helpful input here, I am not able to help much since I'm not attracted to men, but I am trying to help at least. [addsig] |
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sed26
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Post subject: 3998
Posted: Mar 13, 2007 - 08:13 PM
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| You're missing the point :/, he doesn't know all she thinks about is other women.[addsig] |
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