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Post subject: Advice about an issue with my Puerto Rican cousin
 Posted: Aug 02, 2011 - 09:55 PM
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Hi. I'm half puerto rican and Pakistani and a male, 17 years. I am writing here to get opinion and advice from Latina women.
I have an older puerto rican cousin and shes 30. And shes into decorating and taking care of her feet a lot, so is it normal for her to show off her feet to me? I ask cause my paki cousins aren't allowed to show off to me. So is this a culture thing for my rican cousin?
I'm in PR now visiting her, and she would show off her ankle tattoos, pedicures, and jewelry on her feet to me. She would point her toes and wave her feet to me to show also. So why does she do this? and is is normal for me to feel comfortable with, because lately i've been feeling curious about it when she shows. I just never see such decorations on her feet and i find it very interesting and nice whenever I see?
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Post subject: RE: Advice about an issue with my Puerto Rican cousin
Posted: Aug 04, 2011 - 02:14 PM
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| Why not discuss this with your cousin? I'm sure she would enjoy very much to tell you all about their customs and way of life. There is nothing to be ashamed of in asking. |
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Post subject: RE: Advice about an issue with my Puerto Rican cousin
Posted: Aug 04, 2011 - 02:26 PM
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| Well I thought maybe someone here can tell me how the customs are? And how a Puerto Rican will think in this situation? I might feel shy to just ask her. |
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Post subject: RE: Advice about an issue with my Puerto Rican cousin
Posted: Aug 04, 2011 - 03:17 PM
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| I posted on this forum hoping some latina women can share their opinion about this? |
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Post subject: RE: Advice about an issue with my Puerto Rican cousin
Posted: Aug 04, 2011 - 05:15 PM
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| What you have described is done in Canada, the USA, Europe, etc......these countries dont have strict laws against others freedom to express themselves through, peircings, tatooes and body jewelry. so it's not strictly Latina. |
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Post subject: RE: Advice about an issue with my Puerto Rican cousin
Posted: Aug 04, 2011 - 05:31 PM
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| oh I understand. But its normal to show to me? why does my cousin show? |
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Post subject: RE: Advice about an issue with my Puerto Rican cousin
Posted: Aug 04, 2011 - 07:12 PM
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| Women like to fish for compliments. She wanted to ask a man's opinion if her toes look pretty. If you said yes then she will know that they will be attractive to other men. There is nothing riske about a women showing their painted toes....we wear sandals in public, so what's the differentce. She obviously spends a lot of money and time on her feet as many women do.....it makes her feel happy. She is just showing off. |
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Post subject: RE: Advice about an issue with my Puerto Rican cousin
Posted: Aug 04, 2011 - 07:34 PM
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| oh because coming from pakistan, I never see such decorations on her feet before. So when she points her toes and waves her feet to me, it is to show because she want me to feel attractive to her feet? she feels proud maybe? And she is 30, age do not matter? And what kind of things I can say about them? |
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Post subject: RE: Advice about an issue with my Puerto Rican cousin
Posted: Aug 04, 2011 - 09:38 PM
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You can say "Oh my looks like you have spent a lot of time making them so beautiful. In Pakistand you would never see such a thing".
Dude shes 30, she is looking for attention....maybe it makes her feel younger. |
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Post subject: RE: Advice about an issue with my Puerto Rican cousin
Posted: Aug 05, 2011 - 12:40 AM
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| oh okay. I really respect her and what she do. So when she points and waves, I can admire and give her my attention? How? Is it normal to feel curious about them whenever I see? I just don't want to disrespect her or be rude. |
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Post subject: RE: Advice about an issue with my Puerto Rican cousin
Posted: Aug 05, 2011 - 12:43 AM
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| As soon as you acknowledge the painted toes, she will stop. |
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Post subject: RE: Advice about an issue with my Puerto Rican cousin
Posted: Aug 05, 2011 - 01:04 AM
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| She will stop? But she doesn't want me to admire? And what about being curious? |
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Post subject: RE: Advice about an issue with my Puerto Rican cousin
Posted: Aug 05, 2011 - 05:01 PM
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| I know shes 30, Is it normal for me to give her the attention? and how? |
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