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helplessinpa
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Post subject: I can't have sex...
 Posted: Aug 07, 2010 - 05:45 PM
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Ok, here's my situation. I really need some help. I'm 25 years old and have always had what I would call an abnormal fear of sex. I think I have a healthy sexual desire and I masturbate and can orgasm through my clit, but I am revolted at the thought of anything being near my vaginal opening. I have had very abnormal periods and I actually don't have periods at all anymore (I've only had a handful in my life, starting at age 16). When I did have them, I forced myself to attempt to put in a tampon. I was shaking so bad and got light headed and almost passed out. I went to my family doctor at the age of 19 to get a pap smear and she couldn't get the speculum anywhere close because it hurt so bad and I was crying uncontrollably. In college I went to a gynecologist, who examined me and diagnosed me with a microperforate hymen and suspected I had vulvodynia. Two summers ago I got surgery to open up my hymen (basically, it was so tight a q tip barely fit). The doctor that performed the surgery also told me I probably had vulvodynia (a pain condition of the vulva).
Since then, I have made several attempts to have sex, because as you can imagine, it is very difficult to be in a relationship when sex is such a big issue for me. It's easier for me to stay away from guys altogether than to be in a situation where sex night come up. I fell in love with a guy last year and I tried so hard to have sex with him. Thoe experiences always ended up with me crying and being so upset at myself because I couldn't. I feel like this is some kind of psychological battle that I don't know how to win (I guess every phobia is). The thing is, I am totally ok with pain. I have tattoos, I love piercings, and I used to struggle a lot with self injury so I can handle pain. I just don't understand why sex and the thought of anything entering my vagina is such a crippling thing for me.
Have any of you had issues like this and overcome? I could use any advice you have. |
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smackie9
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Post subject: RE: I can
Posted: Aug 10, 2010 - 04:46 AM
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| Seek out a sex therapist. |
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suzanna
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Post subject: RE: I can
Posted: Aug 10, 2010 - 08:06 AM
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| so...you had that pain during sex with your present bf? |
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