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shelley
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Post subject: B/f forced his dick into my ass
 Posted: Dec 19, 2008 - 07:16 PM
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Me and my boyfriend tried anal sex a week ago. He has had anal with other girls, but I had not done it yet. It was really hard for me because I am uncomfortable with anything touching or going into my ass. To me it is a one way exit, and I squirm when I think of anal sex. But I agreed to at least try it and he was very gently and nice about it, going slowly and making sure I was okay the whole time. I hated it, but I felt safe.
Cut to last night... we are having sex in doggy position and he suddenly pulled his penis out of my vagina and shoved it right up my ass. No lubrication. No asking for my consent. No warning. Nothing.
I yelped and pulled away crying. He had broken my trust and I just felt so violated. It hurt physically and mentally. He said he was sorry, but I still feel angry and hurt about it. Why would he do that? He knows how uncomfortable I am with anal anything...
Now he is mad at me for not accepting his apology.
I feel like I can't trust him and I am taken aback by what he did.
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Posted: Dec 20, 2008 - 08:46 PM
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First of all *Cuddle* ...
Second, to be honest, i cant believe he would do that 
He might be mad at you because he really feels sorry or because he doesnt understand maybe?
I really dont think you're out of order at all for being mad and dont let him think that you think that way...
I'm sure you will or have made it clear to him that thats no way near acceptable behaviour.
.... maybe you should wait until hes asleep and shove a butternut squash up his ass or something? 
Right now im not sure what else to say other than im sure 99.9% of people reading this .. feel for you lol. |
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mickie
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Posted: Dec 22, 2008 - 04:22 AM
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I think that he knows he did something stupid.
I think he has used the youporn channel as an educational tool.
Teach him that real life is quite different from porn video.
Your relationship can grow past this mistake.
You can not grow past repeated mistakes. |
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smackie9
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Posted: Dec 29, 2008 - 05:50 AM
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Well I don't know how much in love or how far you are in your relationship, but I want to point out a few things here....
One, he knows how uncomfortable you are about anal sex, the thought of it makes you squirm. You gave it a try and still it is not what you are into.
Two, knowing how you feel, he proceeds to drive his penis into your ass with out protection, lube and most of all your permission.
Three, he has the gull to be mad at you for not accepting his apology.
All this says to me is he is selfish and lacks respect for you. He really has some growing up to do.
I'd be asking him if your relationship worth it to him if there is no anal sex. Is he willing to give that up for you? |
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Posted: Jan 05, 2009 - 01:45 PM
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Posted: Mar 10, 2009 - 09:10 PM
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Girls, and I feel you are all girls here.
First, EXPLAIN to him that you will have anal ONLY when YOU want it. When you want to try, you let him know and he will except this.
Second, get GEL and lots of it. Buy the big tube and when you do start the process, make sure he's got gobs of it on him and you too. The more the better.
Third, You MUST be in control. Most men will be quite hard and rearing to to. Explain that ONLY YOU set the pace. He should enter as you let him, at YOUR pace,, slowly. It will take a minute for your muscles to relax, especially if you are new to this. Trust me, they will. Then YOU start slowly moving and he stays still. He must understand this from the beginning. He should abide. You will eventually speed things up and you will like it. But, you keep the pace. You will start to understand how the motion makes you feel good and then you will start to enjoy it. Eventually you should get to your climax and it will be amazing, I assure you. The problem with most of you is you are too timid, dry, inexperienced and have an over eager partner who doesn't know what they are doing. Liking anal is ok, and if done right you will love it.
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Posted: Apr 11, 2009 - 05:07 AM
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Quote: All this says to me is he is selfish and lacks respect for you. He really has some growing up to do.
I'd be asking him if your relationship worth it to him if there is no anal sex. Is he willing to give that up for you?
Yeah agree, it seems the two of you are not sexually compatible. And that he tried to force the issue speaks volumes about him. You have to ask yourself if you want to be with someone this immature? Which is further evidenced by his being mad at you for not instantly getting over it. |
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Posted: Apr 11, 2009 - 09:42 PM
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mickie wrote: I think that he knows he did something stupid.
I think he has used the youporn channel as an educational tool.
Teach him that real life is quite different from porn video.
Your relationship can grow past this mistake.
You can not grow past repeated mistakes.
I also find he has lied to you about having anal many times with his past gfs. If he was that experienced he would know how to handle the situation with more maturity. In fact he has no clue and I agree with Mickie that he uses porn as a teaching tool.
So don't be afraid to read up on things girls and you become the teacher. Knowledge is power. Don't end up being angry from him making mistakes. Take control of what you want. Tell them what you like and don't like. Speak up! |
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Posted: Jun 16, 2009 - 08:18 PM
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sex always should be consensual so i understand why it is not hard for you to trust him.
when he said sorry, did he even explain why he did it?
i think this is something you should sit down on and talk about. |
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Posted: Jun 24, 2010 - 08:29 AM
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| Not a big deal. 'He broke my trust..' '..he's a maniac; how could he ever do this! ..' Way overreacting. You guys were having sex and he took it out of your vagina and then placed it in your anus.. no big deal (meaning that this wasn't some master plan whereby he was attempting to destroy your being and self worth). But if this is a problem for you, then I agree that you two are sexually incompatible. |
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Post subject: Forget it!
Posted: Aug 01, 2010 - 07:49 AM
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Honey,
just bite the pillow and let him unload... it really isn't that much of an issue.
My husband does this every bow and again, I guess it just feels that little bit tighter.
Besides, it usually finishes off a bit quicker, rather than slopping around in the swimming pool, and then you can both get a good nights sleep.
If you are anything like me (a bit loose down below) I wished I had done a few more pelvic floor exercises after the kids, maybe I would have still had a bit of a spring!
I have been married to the same man for twenty years, and these SOB's will try and stick that damn thing into anything and anywhere...believe me, has he been at your armpit yet? There is seriously something wrong with the way mens brains are wired, I think they have a brain in their dick that takes over. |
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Post subject: RE: Forget it!
Posted: Aug 01, 2010 - 07:58 AM
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You want to give him a bit of give and take!
I sometimes cuff my husband to the bed and give him a good seeing to with a strap on, they tends to lay off your ass a bit for a while after they get whats a comin! |
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suzanna
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Post subject: RE: Forget it!
Posted: Aug 21, 2010 - 02:58 PM
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| i also feel for you... and wish you to find a reliable and attentive partner) |
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Post subject: Re: RE: Forget it!
Posted: Sep 13, 2010 - 02:46 PM
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miggins wrote: You want to give him a bit of give and take!
I sometimes cuff my husband to the bed and give him a good seeing to with a strap on, they tends to lay off your ass a bit for a while after they get whats a comin!
Well said, best way to teach them a lesson, you sound like a fellow domme |
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