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Post subject: stipid boys
 Posted: Apr 10, 2009 - 05:47 PM
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| so I've been dating this guy, back around new years he moved in with me. he got a new laptop and sadly enough, i know a |
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Post subject: RE: boyfriend watching porn
Posted: Apr 11, 2009 - 04:56 AM
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That is unfortunate. But I don't think women understand how much men differ from us. They are visual, we are emotional, not to paint broad strokes, but there it is in a nutshell. In other words, I don't think it's personal.  I wouldn't worry about it too much. If it does bother you, you can talk about it with him. Being a guy though, I don't think he's really going to understand where you're coming from. It is about respect though bottom line. If this is an issue you've broached before and he's ignored you, that's a no-no.
Does he show any other signs of being unfaithful/disrespectful?
Ask him why likes it? Ask yourself why you hate it?
Talk it over with each other. Don't start the conversation with accusation but rather trying to understand his perspective. The fact is you're going to be hard-pressed to find a man who doesn't watch porn. It also shows there is some trust issues here as you are snooping on his laptop. What is the saying eavesdroppers never hear good of themselves? Same idea applies here. Has he given you reason to mistrust him? |
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Post subject: Re: RE: boyfriend watching porn
Posted: Jun 11, 2009 - 12:27 PM
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eles wrote: That is unfortunate. But I don't think women understand how much men differ from us. They are visual, we are emotional, not to paint broad strokes, but there it is in a nutshell. In other words, I don't think it's personal. I wouldn't worry about it too much. If it does bother you, you can talk about it with him. Being a guy though, I don't think he's really going to understand where you're coming from. It is about respect though bottom line. If this is an issue you've broached before and he's ignored you, that's a no-no.
Does he show any other signs of being unfaithful/disrespectful?
Ask him why likes it? Ask yourself why you hate it?
Talk it over with each other. Don't start the conversation with accusation but rather trying to understand his perspective. The fact is you're going to be hard-pressed to find a man who doesn't watch porn. It also shows there is some trust issues here as you are snooping on his laptop. What is the saying eavesdroppers never hear good of themselves? Same idea applies here. Has he given you reason to mistrust him?
Listen to eles, he gives great advices.
I think that you should not worry about your boyfriend watching porn.
Almost all men do this, this is normal. |
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Post subject: RE: Re: RE: boyfriend watching porn
Posted: Jun 16, 2009 - 07:27 PM
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| hi savingxmaryxkate.. i don't think you have much to worry about with your boyfriend watching porn. (unfortunately) it seems natural to their gender. go figure, lol |
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Post subject: Horrible advice here...
Posted: Jun 25, 2009 - 08:34 PM
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Sweetie....
It is NOT natural for men to look at porn. This is a LIE that men have been telling women for decades so that we will get used to the fact that we simply are not enough for them, sexually. You need to tell this guy to cut the porn OUT. You guys need to sit down..and have a deep, heated talk about your sex life. Ask him what he likes, what makes him feel good, etc...do it for him, and vice versa. If he wont cut the porn out...then get a man who only wants YOU! |
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Post subject: RE: Horrible advice here...
Posted: Jun 29, 2009 - 04:47 PM
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I agree with Lessieloo: it is a myth that it is natural for men to watch porn. But this myth was created not only for women but for men as well.
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I am just curious: do you respect your feelings enough to tell him: me or porn? What is more important for you: this guy or your own feelings? |
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Post subject: RE: Horrible advice here...
Posted: Jul 16, 2009 - 04:23 PM
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Mon Cheri,
A man with no passion means nothing to a woman. It is our passion that stimulates and drives a woman to do shameful things. If it offends you that his passion is leading him away from you, then tell him while looking deep into his eyes: Your porn is garbage and it offends me and makes me feel less than I am. Stop watching it and I will do more than lay back when you take me. End that with a smile and he will rarely watch porn. But you will have to live up to your promise cheri.
Take care of yourself... |
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Post subject: Some guys fill embarassed wen they find out that u know they
Posted: Oct 30, 2009 - 11:16 PM
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| Some guys fill embarassed wen they find out that u know they are watching porn... I didnt understand when i found out my boyfriend was watching, i consulted him about it and all he could say was that its a guy thing... My conclusion was just to let it go and not make it a big deal, it feels better if u take as the same way just have to mak sure ur hair is done at all times.. It only becomes questionable wen he is addicted or an obsession and starts making u act out those things or starts comparing to that... then thats wen u should be worried. But i dont think u should stress... |
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Post subject: Re: Some guys fill embarassed wen they find out that u know
Posted: Oct 31, 2009 - 03:07 PM
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independentgirl wrote: Some guys fill embarassed wen they find out that u know they are watching porn... I didnt understand when i found out my boyfriend was watching, i consulted him about it and all he could say was that its a guy thing... My conclusion was just to let it go and not make it a big deal, it feels better if u take as the same way just have to mak sure ur hair is done at all times.. It only becomes questionable wen he is addicted or an obsession and starts making u act out those things or starts comparing to that... then thats wen u should be worried. But i dont think u should stress...
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Post subject: Re: Horrible advice here...and yours is worse
Posted: Dec 02, 2009 - 12:57 PM
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lessieloo wrote: Sweetie....
It is NOT natural for men to look at porn.
says who?
I watch everything from porn to high end business seminars and I would watch both with a girl.
there is the possibility that the porn is from before they started dating.
pressuring a guy is not a good way to solve a problem. I doubt that a deep heated discussion will lead to anything good.
its better to just talk about it casually and tell him when he is listening and not under pressure |
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Post subject: RE: Re: Horrible advice here...and yours is worse
Posted: Dec 06, 2009 - 06:53 AM
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| Your boy friend is attracted to other women. Get over it. It's nothing against you. Mens sex drive reminds them a sex not every 5 seconds like it's been said but many times during the day. You shouldn't take that personally. If he was to masturbate while only thinking of you would that really make you feel good about your self? |
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Post subject: RE: Re: Horrible advice here...and yours is worse
Posted: Jan 03, 2010 - 08:20 PM
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| I have to say it is natural. My bf and i have been together for 5 years and we are both guilty of this. you know there are someimes when you just want to get down and dirty and your partner isnt around. there is nothing wrong with watching a porn to get off....better that then cheating. |
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Post subject: RE: Re: Horrible advice here...and yours is worse
Posted: Jan 03, 2010 - 09:14 PM
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| That's what my male friend told me too.....you like some change up, variety and yes prevents you from lookin for it irl. |
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Post subject: RE: Re: Horrible advice here...and yours is worse
Posted: Jan 09, 2010 - 04:15 AM
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Porn is normal. I watch porn, I like porn. Even when I'm in a relationship, sometimes I want to get off when my legs arn't shaved and I just had way too much to eat and I'm bloated and I'm alone. I'm not going to call up the guy I'm seeing. I'll just turn on some porn and do my thing.
For guys, a lot of the time it's the same. It's just about getting off. That's all. You're not around.. they want to get off.. porn helps along the process. It's not personal. |
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