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kietypm
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Post subject: "Fun" Buddy/ Friend with Benefits
 Posted: May 15, 2009 - 05:08 AM
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| I've got a problem. Well I just became friend with benefits with this guy. He was/is my first. He has commitment issues i guess you would call them bc he's still in love with his first love that he broke up with a year ago. First he said that he's waiting for another chance and then said he just needs time to get over her. I've never really wanted the emotional resposibility of having a boyfriend so i was cool with it a the time. However i thought that the "relationship" would be kind of us sleepin just together no other girls and no other guys, which i guess would be like a regular relationship without the lovey dovey stuff. But now it feels like i'm growing more and more confused bc i don't know how i'm suppose to react to anything or if i should show any emotion at all. He says i over complicate things when he such a simple guy. Am I? I'm not in love with him i just want to be the only woman that he wants. I want him to get over his ex and stop telling me how hot my friends are. I'm afraid to talk to him bc I don't want him to think i'm pressuring him or trying to get more out of the relationship. I've tried to be just friends twice but we end up sleeping together any way! I like him, but i don't know what o expect. I'm afraid to move on bc I'm afraid of having sex with someone else I don't want it to be worse or even just different but for all i know he's already bored with me! Wats some advice? |
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Post subject: RE: "Fun" Buddy/ Friend with Benefits
Posted: May 15, 2009 - 05:19 AM
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| Well never fear of not being able to meet "the one". We all at sometime in our lives desire a person we really can't have. It's part of human nature to feel that way but it's always a challenge to ignore it. Difficult as it is you need to look elsewhere for what you truly desire....someone who wants to be with as much as you want to be with them. Don't worry, there is someone out there is looking for that too, but you won't find them when you are wasting your time on someone who is not that into you. |
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Post subject: RE: "Fun" Buddy/ Friend with Benefits
Posted: May 15, 2009 - 05:40 AM
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| You sound quite young so I'm going to give you some advice about guys. When you easily give up sex to a guy he will not look at you as gf material ever. If you want a dude to be your bf you need to not give it up and let them work into a relationship first......it's called "the chase". It's old school but after all these years of sexual revolution, it still stands the same today. |
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Post subject: RE: "Fun" Buddy/ Friend with Benefits
Posted: May 15, 2009 - 04:32 PM
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Oh! You can be a Goddess!  But you cheap yourself!! What for?? Just to be like others??? Why?? Why do you need a kind of sleeping together relationships?? Why to waste your energy and confuse your mind??
"But now it feels like i'm growing more and more confused bc i don't know how i'm suppose to react to anything or if i should show any emotion at all." You are not supposed to be the certain way!! Life is not a manual!!! You destroy yourself when you follow "I should"!!! There is your heart and your female intuition which will always give you the best answer (unique answer that is only you!!!)!! |
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Post subject: RE: "Fun" Buddy/ Friend with Benefits
Posted: Jun 16, 2009 - 07:32 PM
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| if you don't like how he's making you feel, how he's acting about his ex and your friends, and how he's treating you -- then just get out of this. you deserve more. if you want someone who will just want you, then go get that guy and dump this one, if he can't give it to you. |
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Post subject: RE: "Fun" Buddy/ Friend with Benefits
Posted: Jun 24, 2010 - 08:44 AM
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| Why do you want to handcuff a man into only wanting you when you're only FWBs? |
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Post subject: RE: "Fun" Buddy/ Friend with Benefits
Posted: Aug 30, 2010 - 04:49 PM
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| If sex is good, then just meet with him for that solely purpose. Let your emotions go, that would be very difficult though bc he was your first. I don't think you going to be a friend with this guy after all. So make a decision that will be good for your emotional state. |
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