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sydneyshaw
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Post subject: STRESSED OUT BOYFRIEND WONT HAVE SEX- ADVICE PLEASE!!
Posted: Sep 09, 2009 - 09:10 PM
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| Hi, Im new to this forum and wanted to ask a question. My boyfriend and i have been dating for 2yrs now and we are living together. He recently got a new job about a month ago. He is so super stressed out about it because he thinks he cant make handle the pressure. I have tried to get his mind off it, taking him on trips, going out, talking about his feelings, telling him it will be ok;to wait 6 months and see what happens. But he just seems so stressed out, and when i try to have sex with him, he just keeps telling me he is not in the mood, that all he thinks about is his job. That its not me that its his work. But i cant seem to help to think it is me. He tells me all the time that he loves me, that im a "good" girl that im so great. But i have needs and i told him that, he just tells me to hang in there that he is just stressed. Its been over 2 months now. What should i do?? |
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Posted: Dec 02, 2009 - 01:14 PM
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2 months is alot, is he getting enough sleep? how stressed is he? lack of sleep and alot of stress can keep me from getting aroused by anything for weeks.
the kind of food he eats can also have an impact on that, eating natural food like fruit will get better results then eating some chips and running off to work.
we always take these things personally, its never directly your fault. |
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sydneyshaw
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Posted: Dec 02, 2009 - 01:22 PM
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| Thank you for your response. We ended up breaking up about a month ago. I found out he was talking to another woman. he told me that he never cheated, but when i found the text messages on his blackberry planning a trip to Chicago with her i had all i needed and i left. I am still in the process now of healing and miss him still, but i know in the end i made the right decision. We have not spoken in weeks and that kills me but i guess this happen for a reason. |
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jagger_valance
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Posted: Dec 04, 2009 - 06:37 PM
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sydneyshaw wrote: he was talking to another woman.
while I was writing my response I had the thought "theres probably another woman" in the back of my head but I didnt write it because I thought I might be wrong and I will cause you to worrie more. I wish you luck in finding a better guy, your recent breakup will only make you stronger. |
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