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butterfly**
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Post subject: Newbie Question - about affairs
 Posted: Feb 16, 2009 - 04:42 PM
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Hello
I am new to this site and joined as I am looking for some impartial advice from people who don't know me.
I am married and happily married but the last 2 work dos I have been to I have kissed a guy I work with in my team. He too is married. We both get on and all is cool when we are at work but I dont know what to make of it all...any thoughts |
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mctlong
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Post subject: RE: Newbie Question - about affairs
Posted: Feb 17, 2009 - 09:36 PM
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Hmmph. Tough one.
A good place to start is by asking yourself why you're kissing this guy. There seems to be 2 reasons people pursue affairs:
1.) There something missing in the relationship with your husband that you're trying to find in work guy
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2.) You enjoy the adventure and danger associated with having an affair
You said that you're happily married, so perhaps it is the latter. There may be nothing missing in your marriage. Sometimes people pursue romantic affairs because they enjoy the adrenaline rush of engaging in taboo behavior. You're doing something dangerous and exciting.
Affairs are common, but personally destructive. My suggestion would be to find another outlet for your dangerous side. Maybe planning an exotic vacation to a foreign country or camping in some remote location? Something crazy and fun.
Good luck! Keep us posted. |
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CrystalLee
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Post subject: RE: Newbie Question - about affairs
Posted: Feb 18, 2009 - 02:11 AM
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I would say it is just because you have a good relationship and it was curisity
i wouldnt pay any attentiuon to it...however if it happens again i think there may be a problem |
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Post subject: RE: Newbie Question - about affairs
Posted: Mar 01, 2009 - 10:14 PM
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| I would avoid doing it again, surely a colleague at work could find out and tell your husband? Do you feel massively guilty? |
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Post subject: RE: Newbie Question - about affairs
Posted: Apr 11, 2009 - 05:14 AM
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Quote: I am married and unhappily married
Fixed. 
Wow did you ever cross the line? Kissing someone else while married is a huge sign of disrespect. Don't do it again. If you're unhappy, bored, neglected, insert whatever excuse that people cheat, then get a divorce. There is no excuse for this type of behavior, if there is a problem be an adult and talk it over with your husband. He does deserve at least that much consideration doesn't he?
People don't look elsewhere unless they are unhappy. Admitting it is the first step. |
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crosewood74
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Post subject: RE: Newbie Question - about affairs
Posted: Jun 16, 2009 - 07:44 PM
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of course, happy or unhappy, married is married. i think it's only ethical to get out of a relationship first before messing with a new one...
this seems like your dipping your toes into the pool of infidelity. and it's never cool. |
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