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chrissythemissy
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Post subject: My boyfriend wants to try stuff like in porn movies :s
 Posted: Nov 08, 2008 - 11:47 PM
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Hi im a 18 year old girl, ive only just "started" on this forum cause i have an issue :S my boyfriend and i are in love and ofc. we have sex  well its all been perfect untill the last couple of times he has been more and more "exited" and more and more "engaged" or what you can say with comming with new ideas like in porn movies and stuff, for example maybe group sex or 2 girls and one guy (the guy being him) but im still unsure, i dont really know what to do, i dont want to let him down in one way but in another i dont want to be all plain and boring? do you think he would leave me if i said no or hessitated? i really need help!  but when we met we were both virgins and he was all up and going about trying it for the first time but i was a little bit layed back and tried to wait before i did it cause i dont know about every one but i for one didnt want to just run arround and give up my virginity, but he has always been a bit pushy when it comes to sex, i love him to death and all but what should i do in this case? should i try to accept and try some of the things or what ;(? i dont know, im a little worried about group sex, that if we are 2 girls he might like her better she might be better then me i have only had sex like 4 times and i still think im new ;( and its kind of embarrasing to talk about it plz help |
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mickie
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Post subject: RE: My boyfriend wants to try stuff like in porn movies :s
Posted: Nov 10, 2008 - 02:47 PM
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You do not have to rush into anything.
Sexual skills and knowledge of your own personal likes and dislikes will develop over a lifetime.
You are the only one in charge of your sexual training.
Master the basics first before moving on.
Also....porn movies are not made to educate....they are made to entertain and to make a profit. |
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chrissythemissy
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Post subject: RE: My boyfriend wants to try stuff like in porn movies :s
Posted: Nov 10, 2008 - 07:45 PM
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Thank you mickie, ive tried to tell him to wait and maybe ittle come, but what about Group sex and other ideas like that, would you say i should agree to that or should i just wait and see how our 1on1 works out? well i told him like you said that porn movies are to be "enjoyed" and also for the makers to make a profit and i in some cases thinks its a little sad for the women who have to be in them i know some/most chose to but still... im a bit worried that he would just go behind my back and cheat if i dont try what he has said...i dont really know what to do... and i also thought we should wait and just learn more about eachother before we even try anything like that at the moment i find nothing wrong with "plain" old sex i think a relationship is something you build up over time, he has kind of accepted the fact but then asked like me being on the top? how do you even do it apart from just letting him do something he has told me that women can be good at it:S any info on how the women is on top, cause im new to it and id like to learn  ? |
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tallulah
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Posted: Nov 11, 2008 - 12:25 AM
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Hey Chrissy =)
Alot of people ( guys inparticular ) think the whole 3 some thing is a good idea because they like what they've seen in porn, in reality, moreoften than not, its awkward as hell for many reasons, one being the "girlfriend" getting jealous for example. You two might love each other insanly but something like this can ruin the strongest of relationships.
You're only 18 aswell remember.. and you're not sexually experienced enough to know what you enjoy and dont enjoy and this is very important when wanting to "expand your sexual knowledge"
As for him.... IF he ever did cheat on you because he thought you was "boring" in bed or because you didnt have a 3some or whatever.. this would make him extremely out of order, and hunny, a guy like that isnt worth it. However.. if he loves you as much as you obviously love him, i wouldnt see him straying anywhere, chances are.. being "new" to this has gone to his head a little 
Dont EVER get pressured into anything.... ever. In the long run, it isnt worth it. Try new things over time, dont rush it, you'll miss so much if you rush it, if he rushes you,dont be afraid to tell him off a little ( who knows he might even enjoy that bit) and if hes still trying to rush you then he really isnt worth it.
So yeah... take your time, and if you dont like something or want to do something, then dont do it.. no one will hate you for it, and he wont cheat ...99.9% sure anyway!
Happy sexin   |
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chrissythemissy
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Posted: Nov 11, 2008 - 06:35 AM
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| thank you Tallulah and Mackie this site seems like a nice place thank you both again ) |
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smackie9
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Posted: Nov 12, 2008 - 03:39 AM
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| Another tip.....never let a guy dictate what you SHOULD be doing in bed. If he does get way too pushy and pressures you to the point you feel real uncomfortable, it is only showing that he is thinking of himself and not about you and your feelings. Sex is new and exciting to him, but he has to understand that there is more to a relationship than having sex. It's about sharing and caring for one another. He needs to respect you. I'm sure your mother has talked to you about this. And Mickie is right. Porn is just for entertainment. Most of those ladies on there are not enjoying what is being done to them...they do it just for the money. Guys, especially young ones, have a horrible misconception about porn. They are under the impression that is how all women want sex...but the reality is that isn't the case. |
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chrissythemissy
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Posted: Nov 12, 2008 - 07:09 AM
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thank you smackie, ive talked to him about it and he says he is probably just excited since we have only "just started" but about the part of caring for one another, he evry day says i love you and like once a week he brings either flowers home or cooks dinner:) he even buys me loads of stuff so i dont think that is a problem ^^ tbh. he goes out of his way to get something he knows i want so he is wonderfull couldnt really find a better BF than him. I just think its his manly hormones that are getting excited  ^^ thanks for all the help ladies have a good day ^^ |
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Posted: Mar 01, 2009 - 10:18 PM
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| Is he really a great boyfriend if he would even suggest such a thing so early into a relationship? |
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young_writer
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Posted: Mar 12, 2009 - 02:43 AM
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experimenting is a good idea when you're new to the relationship, i don't mean go out and have threesomes, but anything that has interested you or you've fantasized about it's good to try it, like sit down with him and talk them out.
and if he hassles you for a threesome tell him that you'd be happy to and that you have a guy lined up for it |
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