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Post subject: i need a woman opinion.???
 Posted: Jul 20, 2008 - 11:32 AM
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hello ladies
i have a strange question.i've been married for 20 years she is 47-i'm 46
she is a smoker since we met i never smoke. sexual life has been excelent. but the past 2years i can't tollerate cigarrets one of our fights is i constantly have to tell don't smoke in the house.go out side beside we have a 15year old girl. we don't need that secod hand smoke. i have fallen apart from her intimacy wise due to i use to kiss her i can taste the cigarret in her breath i felt like i had my mouth in a ashtray.i have told her about this but she doesn't care she smokes a pack 1/4 a day.
but here is my main question in the past 6months i have caught her with out her knowing masturbating. even if she notice an erection on me
she would rather stay horny and wait until the moment is right and masturbate.which i have no problem with but if you have a stiff one laying next to you why would you rather masturbate.???hope this doesn't sound confusing.thanks |
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Post subject: RE: i need a woman opinion.???
Posted: Jul 20, 2008 - 07:51 PM
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A 'stiff one' is an object.
Good sexual relations is a lifestyle. |
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1iwilly
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Post subject: Re: RE: i need a woman opinion.???
Posted: Jul 20, 2008 - 10:42 PM
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mickie wrote:
A 'stiff one' is an object.
Good sexual relations is a lifestyle.
sorry about that at that moment i din't know what word would fit the sentence at that moment. |
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smackie9
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Post subject: RE: Re: RE: i need a woman opinion.???
Posted: Jul 25, 2008 - 05:42 PM
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| Men always feel that we should choose them over using toys or masturbation. Well we like to have a choice on how we reach our "O". She is just enjoying a different sexual experience and it doesn't mean that she is avoiding having sex with you. |
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1iwilly
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Post subject: RE: Re: RE: i need a woman opinion.???
Posted: Jul 25, 2008 - 10:03 PM
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| thanks for the replies well i caught her yesterday again. in a month and a half i have caught her 4 times she doesnt' know yet that i hear her.as i pretend to be glued to the tv. but it has gotten to the point that if she goes in the shower she closes the door something she didn't do before the same if she is changing her clothes and i walk in she covers her self. which kind of gives me the old feeling she might be seen some one else.or just plain lost interest. or menapause is fully kicking in.?? hummm mind 20 years together.????? |
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smackie9
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Posted: Jul 26, 2008 - 12:25 AM
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| Having an affair isn't always the answer to someones usual behaviour. You can't just have us guess what it is. You are going to have to sit down with her and tell her what you know and ask her what's going on with her. Assure her that you are willing to listen and accept whatever she says. If you want this to work in your favour, just sit there and listen. Don't interrupt, get defensive, or scold her. Let her release whatever it is she is hiding. I also suggest couples counseling. If your marriage is salvageable, you must learn to reconnect with each other. With counseling, you will sort out your issues and get back on track with loving each other. |
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smackie9
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Posted: Jul 26, 2008 - 12:32 AM
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| btw......when you say that you "caught her" you make it sound like she's doing something bad. Please don't make her feel like she is deceiving you, when it is totally natural for a woman to enjoy herself sexually. |
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1iwilly
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Posted: Jul 26, 2008 - 02:44 AM
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smackie9 wrote:
btw......when you say that you "caught her" you make it sound like she's doing something bad. Please don't make her feel like she is deceiving you, when it is totally natural for a woman to enjoy herself sexually.
thanks caught sounded so harsh i forgot to mention i'm a truck driver so my time at home has been limited and i guess she got use to me not been home.????? |
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smackie9
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Posted: Jul 26, 2008 - 05:49 AM
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| you can't keep guessing. You won't get any answers until you actually talk to her. |
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