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italianangel87
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Post subject: I Need Advice!!!
 Posted: May 20, 2008 - 09:37 PM
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I'm the type of girl that really enjoys sex. My ex boyfriend and myself had sex all the time, and it was great. Then, since we broke up, I have had a few fuck buddies, and that was also awesome. I cut it off with all of them, however, and now I'm in an uncomfortable situation.
Sometimes I just wanna go out and have sex. My question is, if I go out to the bars and stuff, how do I end up taking a guy home without being too forward and slutty? How do I, first of all, start talking to them, and second of all transition to the bedroom, without being a whore? |
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whraven
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Post subject: RE: I Need Advice!!!
Posted: May 21, 2008 - 03:22 PM
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I've never liked the terms 'slut' or 'whore'. I've learned from my non-romantic women friends over the years that women can be just as horny as guys (hornier, in some cases), and I hate the double standard that makes it so hard for some to find the simple relief they need. If I were a guy you met in a bar, and we had talked enough so I understood your feelings and desires, I certainly wouldn't consider you a slut or a whore -- I'd consider you just another person looking to fulfill perfectly understandable and normal needs.
Now, I realize many people may disagree with me here, and you're probably going to encounter plenty of guys who will talk about you negatively, but I'd say as long as you approach it with class and care, taking time to make sure the guy understands your feelings and you understand his, I think you have a good chance of at least minimizing the snap judgments too many people make. |
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smackie9
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Post subject: RE: I Need Advice!!!
Posted: May 23, 2008 - 12:59 AM
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| Equal right? It's about time we stop getting labelled like that. I say go for it. These days it's slowly being acceptable. Hey you are just fulling a need, so why can't we? |
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PassionDiva
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Post subject: RE: I Need Advice!!!
Posted: May 24, 2008 - 12:52 AM
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| A safer way to go would be to use sex toys. at least this way you are safe. |
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Sophie
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Post subject: RE: I Need Advice!!!
Posted: May 24, 2008 - 11:37 PM
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| Everyone gets called a slut at some point anyway, no matter how they live. My concern is that its really dangerous to do be doing this, and a lot of girls get raped this way. Most men see going home with them as a 'promise' for sex, so if something goes wrong, you might be in big trouble. I like the fuck buddy idea better. This way you will know the person is safe. Or better yet, a couple of good toys until you find someone special like Diva was saying. gl |
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Cloud_Strife
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Posted: May 30, 2008 - 02:05 AM
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I would have to say that some women naturally have higher sexual urges than others but how they go about it all makes the difference! I would suggest that unless you do this with someone you know and trust that won't try to trick you into anything or won't bring any goodies (rather horrible things) to the table, then you shouldn't just go out looking for a way out of your sexual urges. I would have to agree with the sexual toys idea above mentioned or simply resisting until you find a person you would like to have a steady relationship (monogamous) with. Many crazy and horrible things are happening at bars and clubs...heck, even in women's own homes....to be even remotely thinking of hooking up with a stranger risking so much. Take care of yourself and I hope I've helped....
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