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lovespellxxoo
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Post subject: I think my vagina is loose...
 Posted: Apr 07, 2008 - 08:04 PM
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Hello everyone. I have been wanting to talk to someone about this but I really feel uncomfortable talking about this with my friends.
I am 25 years old, and I have had no children. My boyfriend was my first and only partner, he took my virginity. You would think that a girl with one sex partner wouldnt be loose...
Last week my bf ejaculated too soon (probably the first time this ever happened) because we didnt have sex for about a month because he was away. He started to play with me, and he usually plays with my clitoris and that gets me off, but I pushed his fingers downwards towards my vagina. He entered with his fingers...one, then two, then three, then four. Almost half his hand was in my vagina. His hands arent small either, he is 6'7", and has large hands.
I started to cry and he asked me what was wrong. I told him that I am loose and that I feel horrible. We were talking about it, and then this is when the truck falls off the cliff: he told me that from past gfs, he would usually only be able to get two fingers in the girl without hurting her, three fingers max. He also said that he never told me but that I feel much looser compared to his previous gfs  He said he wasnt being mean, but he was being truthful. I understand this, and him telling me this is better than him going out and getting tighter women.
This is so upsetting I dont know what to do. He txted me today and said that he was thinking about what happened, and now he feels disgusted. He said he shouldnt have put that many fingers in there, but he said that it felt like there was a lot more room, so thats why he did. He also says that it feels like I have been fisted many times before (im guessing fisted means putting a fist up a vagina).
I wanted to add that I have been doing kegels for about two months now, and has not been working. I was going to buy a gyneflex to help tighten my vagina, but I am trying to obtain some advice.
I will be very grateful for any help. |
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Post subject: RE: I think my vagina is loose...
Posted: Apr 07, 2008 - 08:56 PM
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| You could check with your gynecologist, but it sounds to me like you're just one of the women who have a natural stretch that will make childbirth a lot less likely to injure you. Yes, I knew a woman like that, and she was embarrassed too, and relieved to find someone that understood. Maybe you could have a short discussion with your gynecologist with him there, perhaps just have him in for the last few minutes of your regular appointment. After all, I don't think you deserve his 'disgust' or any derision for being 'loose' when it's quite normal. |
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Posted: Apr 08, 2008 - 09:12 AM
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| I'm not trying to be rude but you could turn things around and say that your bf's penis isn't big enough for you....so there! Personally I wouldn't stay with a man that would says he's disgusted with something about me...especially about my vagina. |
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lovespellxxoo
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Posted: Apr 08, 2008 - 01:37 PM
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Thank you for your reply.
I definitely will ask my gynecologist, but I already know she will say that its normal and there is nothing I can do about it.
My bf may be disgusted, but I am 100 times more disgusted than he is. I dont sleep around, like I said he is my first, and now this. It is EXTREMELY depressing
Have any of you used a device to strengthen the vagina muscles, other than kegels?
Thank you. |
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Posted: Apr 08, 2008 - 08:45 PM
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| I agree with smackie9! And there's NOTHING to be disgusted about. It's really normal if you have sex regularly. |
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whraven
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Posted: Apr 09, 2008 - 02:47 PM
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I understand you feeling disgusted, but really, I think you have something to be proud of rather than disgusted: you're not going to have the problems with tearing and other injuries from normal delivery when you have children. I'm not sure how it will affect your own sex life, but it didn't seem to be a problem for the woman I knew with the same type of anatomy. In fact, she had a lot less trouble with painful sex than other women.
This is not to discourage exercising your muscles nor do I want to dismiss your feelings. If being "tight" is really more important to you than easier childbirth, you could look into something surgical, similar to the vaginal rejuvenation a friend of mine has had. |
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Posted: Apr 09, 2008 - 03:34 PM
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whraven...thank you for the information you provided...but yes, I do not plan on having children at this point, and having a tighter vagina far outweighs the childbearing benefits.
I have a question...could you explain more about what your friend had surgically done to her vagina? Is she pleased with the results?
Thanks again everyone for your help! |
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whraven
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Posted: Apr 09, 2008 - 03:47 PM
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| She didn't go into details, but she is *very* pleased with the results. She's had three children, and had loosened up, and I gather the surgery involved tightening her vagina and some minor cosmetic touch-ups in that area as well (primarily her labia, I believe). Of course, she lives in California, so this may be more common out there. If I get a chance, I'll ask her specifics -- I usually talk with her every couple of days. |
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Posted: Apr 10, 2008 - 09:49 PM
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| maybe wait until kids before trying to tighten it up...think of how much easier child birth could be? For all we know you're really not loose your boyfriend is just small. We all come in different shapes and sizes, he shouldn't question any part of you because it's who you are. |
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Posted: Apr 11, 2008 - 02:51 PM
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lovespellxxoo wrote:
Have any of you used a device to strengthen the vagina muscles, other than kegels? .
YES! My husband. |
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lovespellxxoo
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Posted: Apr 11, 2008 - 04:16 PM
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whraven - thank you!
flutterby wrote:
maybe wait until kids before trying to tighten it up...think of how much easier child birth could be? For all we know you're really not loose your boyfriend is just small. We all come in different shapes and sizes, he shouldn't question any part of you because it's who you are.
I do not plan on having children, so it wouldnt matter to me.
Also, my bf is average, but its his fingers that showed that my vagina is loose, not his penis.
How many fingers can fit inside of you without hurting? |
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Posted: Apr 11, 2008 - 09:47 PM
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| I CROSS MY LEGS OR KEEP MY LEGS TOGETHER? he is happy |
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Posted: Apr 11, 2008 - 10:18 PM
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babyface wrote:
I CROSS MY LEGS OR KEEP MY LEGS TOGETHER? he is happy
Wait what?
If you are saying that I dont keep my legs closed, you are wrong I have had sex with one man... |
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Posted: Apr 12, 2008 - 08:36 AM
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| no that is not what i ma saying i belive you have not being sleeping around if you keep your legs together it gives him a diferent filing , sorry if you taught i was getting at you , it is not your falt it he is a pri&k and trys to compare you to he's others |
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Posted: Apr 12, 2008 - 01:33 PM
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keep your legs together and put them over his shoulder during sex and he will get alot different feeling and you feel tighter.... and if in all reality you dont feel tighter.. well it still feels good haha.
but you shouldnt be so ashamed and worried about this, we are ALL different and all have insecurities about our body |
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