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smackie9
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 Posted: May 02, 2008 - 02:13 PM
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| You are letting him have his cake and eat it too! It's time to give him an ultimatum Either it's a committed relationship or it's completely over. To him you are just a friend with "benefits". He is using you silly and you are letting him get away with it. You say you don't have any real friends of your own. Well he knows that. He knows you have nothing without him. This is a way for him to control you. Well it's time to change that. You need to show some independence and spend time doing stuff for yourself, like making your own friends. |
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dazedandconfused
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Posted: May 05, 2008 - 12:42 PM
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I got pretty upset with him yesterday, and we were laying on the bed and I looked at him and told him how much I really do love him, and blah blah blah, and then I asked him "have you thought about us anymore?" and he said "I think about us all the time"
me: "Well what did you come up with?"
him: "I always come up with the same thing.. that we should be together.."
me: "but"
him: "but I don't know what I want, I want to be with you, but I don't want for us to get back together and then you not want me to have any girl friends because you are insecure."
me: "well i understand were you are coming from, you have you cake and get to it eat too.. me, I just get to eat your cake"
him: *laughing*
me: "When do I get my own cake? When can I have mine and eat it to?"
him: *staring at me* "You can have you cake... you can have it."
me: "Well where is it?"
him: "Where is what?"
me: "My cake?"
him: "I thought I was your cake?"
me: "no I want a real cake"
then we both laughed.. and we discussed it later and he said if we got back together that it would be the last time, he was tired of breaking up and getting back together. I told him he wasn't allowed to break up with me in one week because we have little arguments.. and he agreed. |
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ohjackylovetoys
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Posted: May 07, 2008 - 04:34 AM
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| does that mean that you are are officially back together? who was the one who normally initiates breaking up? if it's you, then that is easy to solve. if it is him, then you can't be afraid and hold back who you are just because you want to avoid him leaving you. |
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dazedandconfused
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Posted: May 07, 2008 - 05:52 PM
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Well the very first time we broke up was in November 07, I broke up with him. Then the second time, it was mutual. Then the third time it was him. That was in December, and we have remained very very close since then.
I'm not sure if we are officially back together or not, he was in a bad mood yesterday and then I was aggravating him apparently on top of that, and I asked him "Well are we together or not?" and he said "Yeah fine, we are together." but he was ill when he said it, so I'm not really sure if we are or not. |
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ohjackylovetoys
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Posted: May 08, 2008 - 10:26 PM
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| it seems that the multiple break ups has cause a cycle. if you two are spending so much time together and not seeing other people. why not just let it be. dont mention it anymore, then maybe he will ask u one day. |
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dazedandconfused
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Posted: May 09, 2008 - 04:16 AM
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| Well we are officially back together. He actually has done two nice things for me today without me asking and I returned the favors, he got up and and looked at my bedroom with me only asking once, and he filled up my bottle of water, granted he drank all of my first one, so he just refilled it, but it was nice, and out of the kindness of his heart. Then I went back into the bedroom and filled his water up later that evening, and we both are working on our "Yes dear" answers. Its his birthday today, so I'm going to see how it goes. I wanted to spend it with him, and take him out to eat, but now I have to work until 8:30pm. Which is really sucky. >.< |
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