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peachee
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Post subject: problem?????? ex
 Posted: Mar 30, 2012 - 03:17 AM
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| any advice would be nice.. my bf and i have been together for 18 months. we are both separated from our spouses. i have very little communication with my soon to be ex spouse (DOESNT TAKE CARE OF HIS KIDS OR NOTHING) my boyfriend how ever is a sweet guy he takes care of his kids as well as my kids. the problem is i think that him and his spouse (same one he claimed treated him bad and humiliated him in the front of people) is too close for comfort. she knows about me. they have kids 13 and 5. the problem just started over 2 months ago. her car broke down and now he became the personal taxi. when his car was down, he caught the bus or used my car. he said he cant ride in the same car with that woman. this was last year. ok this year 2012 her car has been down from february. when he goes to take his kids to school he also drops her to work. he told me he drops her to work because it would not look good if he leaves her to take the bus. he says evrything he does is for the sake of his kids but then the other day he tells me she is using the car to go see her mom.(who he doesnt like and practically blames the break up on) . my question is am i reading too much into this? he is saying he will never make back up with her and then you dropn of and pickn up and lending car to her. ??? |
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Post subject: RE: problem?????? ex
Posted: Apr 01, 2012 - 07:12 AM
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I sense some jealousy from you. You wrote in bold how your ex doesn't give you any special treatment to "help you out with the kids and stuff, and here is your BF giving his ex (and the kids) a ride, even lending her the car.
Look all this proves is that your BF is a good guy. It's been almost 2 years now, and that seems to be a good amount of time for the tension they had before, to subside. No matter what, they still have to be apart of each others lives to raise their kids, even if it means lending a car once in awhile....it's really no big deal. If your relationship is solid and you two are happy together then you have nothing to worry about. If you feel lending the car is stepping over the line, then you need to talk to him about setting some boundaries. Tell him you feel it's not appropriate to be lending the car to her for her own personal needs and not the kids. Explain that you feel if he helps her out too much she will become too dependent on him. She is an adult and should be taking care of her personal things on her own......then remind him that his is not her husband anymore. |
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Post subject: RE: problem?????? ex
Posted: Apr 01, 2012 - 07:15 AM
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| Off topic....why has either of you not filed for divorce? |
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Post subject: RE: problem?????? ex
Posted: Apr 01, 2012 - 06:45 PM
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| not jealous at all. the only thing that i require from ex is to take care of his kids and spend time with them. I dont need him to do anything for me. i am just thinking that a line should be drawn about when it come to past relationships. dont you think there should be a limit? I already spoke to him about the dependency of her but he says she is working on getting the car fixed. yes i think he is a good guy but good guys slip up too. |
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