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joann
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Post subject: I Just Need To Tell Someone
 Posted: Oct 02, 2008 - 04:00 PM
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I have always been regular with my periods - you could have set the moon by them.
So when I was due on Christmas Eve last year and nothing happened I thought the only answer was that I was pregnant. I wanted to celebrate and shout the news all over the place.
I think it was just over two weeks later that my period started. In private I cried and cried and cried.
Now, every month I have to work my way through the memory of that and every time I feel so down.
I don't want to complain - I am otherwise fit and healthy. But it doesn't stop me feeling angry and useless.
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Post subject: RE: I Just Need To Tell Someone
Posted: Oct 05, 2008 - 04:42 PM
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Being a guy, I'm very limited in what I can tell you that can be of help. What I can tell you however is that you are not alone. I don't know if you were trying to get pregnant or not (sorta seems as so even though you didn't say as much).
I've been married for over 20 years. My wife and I wanted to have children, but do not have any. Many years back, we would try and try. She would go back and forth to the gyno a few times every month to "try something else" and then to check the results which were always "no...sorry, not this time". From having been witness to this, I can tell you that I do understand the toll it takes on a woman mentally.
What got us out of it was that eventually, the fertility meds she was on threatened to REALLY cost her - health wise. We had to get her off the meds...so we did for an intended period of 6 months, just to get her body back in order.
After 6 months, we both decided that if God wanted us to have kids we would have them and if not, we wouldn't. We ended up (obviously) without them, and have had an overwhelmingly happy marriage.
I hope you get what you want Joann. As best you can though, you need to try to let go of the negativity you're feeling and just get on with your life. Basically, your body changes over time (it will do so many times as you age), so in the future, try not to let this throw you the way it did the first time. I understand why it threw you too...I'd have felt the same way probably. You haven't done anything wrong, and like I said, you're not alone. |
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Post subject: RE: I Just Need To Tell Someone
Posted: Oct 05, 2008 - 05:31 PM
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I hope you have discussed different options with your doctor about this. Check around the internet about charting your ovulation. This can be done by checking your saliva. It's a simple kit you can buy at the drug store. Another way is to go on the pill for a few months and then go off it. My doctor told me you become way more fertile.
It's always best for both you and your man get checked out first to see if there is any hidden issues.
Him having a low sperm count can easily be help just by him switching to wearing boxers.  |
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