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jwalters
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Post subject: Question about a girl.
 Posted: Feb 24, 2009 - 04:06 AM
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Hello ladies,
First off, I need to establish that I am a male, and I am sorry if any of you are offended or upset by my posting here, but I need your opinion. Here is the story:
I’ve liked this girl since about grade 11, we started talking and we’ve ended up becoming okay friends. I always wanted to ask her out on a date, but I was never quite sure if she liked me back and I didn’t want to hurt our friendship. Some days she would ask “when are we getting married” and she would walk over and give me a small pinch in the side, but other days it seemed like she would ignore me. Now where off in university, and she’s quite a distance from me. We still talk over msn and such, and I still have a gigantic crush on her. Over the Christmas break and reading week we would get together with friends, and she would always come over and give me hugs and put her arm around me, or sit beside me. I really can't tell if she likes me or not. Just getting to know her and learning her personality I could honestly see her doing this as a joke.
Long story short, I really want to let her know how I feel, because holding it seems to be killing me slowly. I also really don’t want to hurt our friendship. I don’t know if she likes me or not and although it may seem the case, this girl is downright gorgeous and I am more of your typical average Joe. I really don’t know why she even started talking to me.
So should I tell her? Ask her out? Should I lay back?
Why would a gorgeous girl ever want a regular guy (she could easily go date the worlds sexiest man)? What should I do?! Its killing me.
I just don’t know. |
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Post subject: RE: Question about a girl.
Posted: Feb 25, 2009 - 03:38 PM
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Well just remember if you do it can be a friendship killer. You missed your opportunity ages ago. I say this all the time....when a girl likes you she will stop at nothing to let you know. If this isn't happening then you are just a friend. But if you are not going to ever see here again then tell her but be ready for rejection.
In future, yes beautiful women do date regular guys so don't let it stop you from going up to one. |
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crosewood74
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Post subject: RE: Question about a girl.
Posted: Jun 16, 2009 - 08:12 PM
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| you said so yourself that she's now too far off. telling her now seems like a pointless endeavor. if she likes you back, you still won't be able to date. her. and if she doesn't, then you're risking the friendship |
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darkstranger
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Post subject: RE: Question about a girl.
Posted: Jul 16, 2009 - 03:53 PM
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Bonjour.
Regretably from experience, I must disagree with both opinions above. J, if you are so concerned with being friends then ignore all feelings past that, and start romancing another woman. There is nothing better than a fine woman to help you realize your true feelings.
Besides, this could just be an infatuation with your female friend. The timeless condition where we humans want with all our hearts what we feel that we can never have or deserve.
J, my friend, here's the thing. She is attainable. I speak from experience with my heart's chase who was far away. Love is friendship too, but with alot of extra. It is not a choice of one or the other. Besides, if a friendship is strong enough it will not be easily broken.
If deep inside, you know you try but you heart only beats for her... then no matter the distance or circumstance... Love her, Lover her deeply then attain her. I will tell you how. It's Passion. Passion is the key. A woman is weak for pure, warm, loving passion. Do not be eager... Eagerness destroys the purity of passion. Be calm. Stand Firm. Be Subtle. Overwhelm her. Take Her. To be released from the friend zone... It must be physical. |
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VeTo
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Post subject: RE: Question about a girl.
Posted: Nov 28, 2009 - 02:37 PM
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Tell her. It will release you from all confusion and wonder. When u see her, look her in the eye, tell her that you have feelings for her. Be firm. Be confident. Then leave the ball in her court. Don't be too pushy or suggestive. She may act as if u said nothing in the days to come. But trust me, she's thinking about it.
If she decides that you should just be friends, it's okay. You've let her know how you feel and you can move on. The friendship will be weird for a bit, but then it'll normalize again.
Also, I agree with what smakie said... gorgeous women def go for regular Joes. Women look at much more than looks. Most importantly, we look at how he makes us feel.
Never feel like u are inadequate no matter who the woman is because those feelings will manifest itself in so many ways and it's not attractive. |
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guiliannemaxford
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Post subject: RE: Question about a girl.
Posted: Feb 21, 2010 - 03:28 PM
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I remember my first university weeks. What an amazing world was opening up to me at the time. New realms, faculties, studies, career take off points, international interests, friends and hobbies. You are beginning a new era in your life.
Do not waste it. Do not waste a second of it.
You may not understand what I have to say now, but I will try to impart some wisdom I learned the hard way, something I could only see many years down the road after that time.
This pretty girl is a fragment of the past, highschool, a warm familiar face, enjoyable company. She is a friend at a time when your life is shifting and unpredictable. A constant. I am a firm believer of grabbing life by the turnips and living each day like it is your last. If she is not a drug-user, mentally unstable, unkind, disrespectful and untrustworthy, I wish you all the best. Tell her how you feel. But before you do so, consider whether she is actually good for you.
It could be the beginning of something wonderful lasting a lifetime, or some time. Or it could be the beginning of an unhealthy relationship. Just remember that you are in a fantastic time and era of your life in university now. Don't screw it up. Don't mix with the wrong crowd, choose your associates and partners wisely. Do not forget your studies. Join interest groups and run for president or treasurer in something. Now is the time to seriously do some reflection and explore yourself above and foremost. The rest is idle chatter. Best wishes. |
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