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independentgirl
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Post subject: craving for freedom
 Posted: Nov 23, 2009 - 02:23 AM
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| Im 21years of age, and need some advice to prove to my family that im mature enough to go and sleep over at my boyfriends house without them having to worry bout me or jus go out and not have to come back home...? |
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Post subject: RE: craving for freedom
Posted: Nov 23, 2009 - 04:58 AM
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| What? You are an adult. You do not need anyone's permission to do anything. You are responsible for yourself, not your parents. |
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independentgirl
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Post subject: RE: craving for freedom
Posted: Nov 24, 2009 - 10:25 PM
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| its not as easy as u saying it... as long as u under their roof it seems they wan me to do wat they want...Problem is a friend of mine was staying with her dude for about 6mnths now and she is pregnant(they decided to have a baby, it wasnt a mistake)... My parents are scared that i will end up doing the same thing... that is wats making me angry i dont like being compared especially wen its convenient for them... |
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smackie9
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Post subject: RE: craving for freedom
Posted: Nov 25, 2009 - 08:05 AM
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| Well it's time to respectfully stand up to them. You must reassure them that you are responsible about using protection when having sex...you have told them you are having sex right? If you haven't been able to talk straight to your parents about adult topics such a sex and pregnancy, it's no wonder they treat you like a adolescent still. If you want things to change, you need to step up and show them how adult you are. And hey if you do get pregnant......it's your problem not theirs. What difference does it make whether you are having sex while living under their roof or living at you own place? You are still gonna have sex no matter what. |
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independentgirl
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Post subject: RE: craving for freedom
Posted: Nov 28, 2009 - 08:18 PM
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| i gess maybe thats were the problem is all this time... i havent quite figured out a way to talk to them about such deep intimate adult issues yet...but do need to find a way of course... |
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smackie9
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Post subject: RE: craving for freedom
Posted: Nov 29, 2009 - 04:19 AM
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| I guess a straight on approach is the best way.....maybe they will realize you are not a little girl anymore or maybe they know but just are having trouble accepting it. |
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cinnamon
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Post subject: RE: craving for freedom
Posted: Feb 10, 2010 - 11:39 PM
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Maybe helping them see where you have grown, and developed since you were a teenager. Talk about and demonstrate how you are now different.
Simple things like your ability to handle a higher work load (be it work or schooling, or both), or how you aren't screaming at the top of your lungs the moment something doesn't go your way. The simple things can add up quickly. |
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Post subject: RE: craving for freedom
Posted: Mar 05, 2010 - 03:04 PM
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| I understand what independentgirl is saying. Given our culture, it's also hard to tackle things especially regarding limitations about relationship as long as you're living with your parents. In our culture, one has to obey parents for as long as you live with them even if you earn on your own. I'm 23 and that's the same situation I am in but I don't have any problem about it coz I understand what my culture is about. |
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smackie9
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Post subject: RE: craving for freedom
Posted: Mar 05, 2010 - 05:44 PM
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| I am surrounded by different cultures where I live. And yes for sure culture can be a factor, but I don't think this is an issue with culture for her. It's just a case of over protective loving parents. |
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