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Post subject: Has it been easy?
 Posted: Mar 28, 2008 - 10:08 PM
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| To those of you who have been second wives, or that are now, does he ever compair you to her? and if so, how do you feel about it? Has it been an easy journey getting where the two of you are now? Would you do it all over again? |
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Post subject: RE: Has it been easy?
Posted: May 01, 2008 - 07:11 AM
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to second wife,
i feel that if he compares her negatives to ur positives, then he is trying to make you feel secure in this twisted relationship. if he compares her positives to ur lack of, then he is trying to make you feel twisted in believing that you should change in order to be better than her. either way, this is not healthy.
no, i wouldn't do it again.
--from second gf |
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Tanita
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Post subject: RE: Has it been easy?
Posted: Jun 01, 2008 - 03:57 PM
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Who is this "her"? I put very clearly at the very beginning that "she" is not my problem nither a part of my past nither will be a part of my present or future. Her problems - how she`s going to raise her daughter, what she`ll do for living does not interest me at all. So he doesn`t speak of her infront of me. That`s it. I will advice all second wifes to forget about well manners or diplomacy and to do what I did - above mentioned + an explanation that he`s free to marry her again whenever he likes if he missed his previous family but not to involve me in his past.
With me it worked - I haven`t heard of her for more than 4 years. |
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Post subject: RE: Has it been easy?
Posted: Oct 14, 2008 - 07:44 PM
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Love happens. Painful as it sounds, falling out of love also happens; it can happen anytime, anywhere, to anyone. In most cases the second wife is blamed for the ending of a relationship which was already finished. The truth is that if he falls in love the second time, his first relationship lacked something.
Do not think of the past of your husband because you are unique and therefore are special in a way that cannot be compared to anyone. Build your home on love and you will be happy. |
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Post subject: RE: Has it been easy?
Posted: Sep 30, 2009 - 09:57 AM
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| Many second wives ruined the first marriage, so it is ok for them to suffer a little... I hope there will be a third wife... |
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Post subject: RE: Has it been easy?
Posted: Oct 03, 2009 - 11:54 AM
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Why to blame only second wives; why not the husband? This is silly; it is a mutual understanding of two people i believe. Don't blame only women for everything.
Tanita, i like your stand. You did a great move. |
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Post subject: RE: Has it been easy?
Posted: Oct 14, 2009 - 01:01 AM
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| Are we just talking about Second wives here or the second wife that a man leaves his first wife for??? I'm a second wife, but husband was divorced YEARS before we even met. He married right out of highschool. They were only together for about a year and had no children, so it has not even been a issue at all. It's actually not even on my radar. I feel like his only wife since they never really had a "marriage." He was also away at sea in the Navy for most of it. |
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Post subject: RE: Has it been easy?
Posted: Nov 16, 2009 - 12:29 AM
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I think no matter how you are when you're being compared then it all doesn't feel good.
If someone wants you then he should want you for you area and not what he wants you to be. |
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Post subject: RE: Has it been easy?
Posted: Jul 26, 2011 - 11:04 AM
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| hardly it matter if you don't have the interest in either. |
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