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Divguy
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Post subject: My 15 year is having sex.
 Posted: Apr 26, 2009 - 02:57 PM
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| My 15yr old son has become sexually active. I am not sure what I am supposed to do, I really didn’t think he was this far along yet. My son is in a school environment that allows him as well as all the other students a great deal of free time, more of a collage schedule than a high school schedule. Apparently this time is used to explore new territories. My son A very nice soft featured well spoken young man, (A young white Barack Obama) has developed quite a following of young girls, his own age that are to say enamored would be an understatement. I am not only concerned about teen pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases, I am concerned that he is shaping his sexual identity in well let’s say a negative way. I want you to know that I have always had candid conversations about sex with all three of my sons, and feel confident that I am prepared for the normal sex talk. This is not that talk. My son has had sex with four girls in the past few months and from the 11,000 text messages he received last month, the nine girls he went to the movies with last night and the inumerable phone calls he receives there is more to come. I do not want you to see my son as the lying manipulative guy you dated in school, he is not that guy. I swear he is one of the kindest, sincerest, and confident not arrogant young men you could ever meet. I need advice. What do I do? I am truly lost. |
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Post subject: RE: My 15 year is having sex.
Posted: May 03, 2009 - 09:14 PM
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Unfortunately you can't tell your teen not to have sex. The only thing you can do is have calm open honest communication with him. Lecturing and yelling will only make him shut you out. Buy him condoms. Most mothers out there would go "Oh no! That will only encourage them" No they will have sex regardless. But atleast it will be safe sex. Here is a link from Oprah's website with Dr. Laura Berman. Maybe this can help you
http://www.oprah.com/article/oprahshow/ ... x-handbook |
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flutterby
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Post subject: RE: My 15 year is having sex.
Posted: May 04, 2009 - 08:43 AM
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| I agree, if my mom had told me not to have sex I think I probably would have been more likely to WANT to just because she said I couldn't? Make sure he is at least protected, then you can go on from there. You don't want him to get an STD or get a girl pregnant and effectively change his life at such a young age. |
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Post subject: RE: My 15 year is having sex.
Posted: Jun 16, 2009 - 07:38 PM
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| yes, an honest conversation will make a difference. tell him about your concerns and his responsibilities when it comes to having sex with different partners. |
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loo88
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Post subject: RE: My 15 year is having sex.
Posted: Jul 16, 2009 - 02:55 PM
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I think...well, I know that all my male friends went through the same phase at the age of 15...
I think that all teenage boys go through this phase, and I don't think theres alot you can do to stop it.
The good news is, my male friends did eventually slow down [when their hormones did], and are quite capable of meaningful and monogamas relationships.
I agree with everyone else - just encourage him to be safe, and to try not to break too many hearts! |
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