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dazedandconfused
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 Posted: Feb 16, 2008 - 02:12 PM
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| Why would it be a major problem? My boyfriend (when he had the internet) watched it everyday. ^_^ Mainly because if he doesn't get off he gets headaches, too much stress or some bullshit, and I wouldn't put out everyday. Because some days I have headaches or neck aches or something is wrong with me.. haha I see nothing wrong with wanting to get off daily, and if I'm not in the mood (say.. everyday?) I say to hell with it, go watch your damn porn. For the past 3 years, its porn everyday that I don't put out, and I usually, USUALLY, don't ever refuse, and he has never refused me. So I see no problem with it. |
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Posted: Feb 17, 2008 - 10:45 AM
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I realize how you're feeling, but you do have to realize that men are instinctual beings, that are genetically born to look, whether you like it or not. I can be rediculously insecure, and I've had boyfriends who specifically masturbated to pictures of JUST me- and it was nice- but it's a bit demanding to keep these expectations for every man out there...
If I were in your position, I wouldn't compare myself to the airbrushed, silicone models on the internet.
Your man needs to come to terms with the fact that YOU are better than porn. Besides, he might already know that- and just finds the need to release sexual tension. If I were in your position, I would spice things up a bit in the bedroom and see if his habits change. Once he's releasing his sexual tension with you, perhaps he'll be uninhibited to search for porn. Besides, he's got you- which in his mind is always better than porn. ;] |
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Posted: Feb 22, 2008 - 01:07 PM
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i understand how u're feeling as i would freak out too if the same thing happened to me and my bf - this is definitely sumthing that u have to discuss with your fiancee.
if he really really cannot stop himself from viewing the pics (after u guys have talked abt it), either dump him or satisfy urself that he is not actually doing it with another women.
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Posted: Feb 24, 2008 - 06:23 PM
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| Before the day of computers, it was the magazine kept under the bathroom sink hahahaha! But yes porn can be addictive like drugs and alcohol. I have seen lots of porn and those women are really not attractive......just a lot of makeup. I advise to my young male friends that what they see in porn is acting, and not real sex that women love to have. That it is based on what MEN want to see. I tell them to watch more of the armature stuff where it's ordinary couples having sex with out the plastic boobs and over done makeup lol. |
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Posted: Feb 28, 2008 - 03:16 PM
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I admit it would bother me if i walked in and found my boyfriend looking at porn (video OR pictures) but we already established that I was uncomfortable with it near the beginning of the relationship, and I trust him not to. I, like you, have had an eating disorder and compare myself to girls most of the time, the ED is still a big problem for me, it's not as bad as it was but it effects me alot, I still feel I have to hide my body from my bf, i'm happiest in the dark, lol. Although we don't live with eachother and sometimes don't see eachother for upto a month at a time, if he was watching porn or looking at pictures during the time that I wasnt there then I wouldnt be bothered. I know he needs some satisfaction, haha. My main problem would be if it was while we were together, if he's got me he dosn't need any form of porn, so i'd be insulted if he looked at it.
It's true that even if men don't look at porn, they could always just be thinking of things, so no matter what you do, who you're with you're never going to be 100% sure about anything like that. Just be happy that you've got him, that he's not cheating with another woman. =] |
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Posted: Feb 28, 2008 - 07:01 PM
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i think porn is ok , me and my partner watch it sometimes. it makes the sex a whole lot bettr because you both get so much more horny. but if my b.f was watching it on his own and kept to the same movie because of a certian girl then tht wud most likely p*** me off  |
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Posted: Mar 21, 2008 - 04:26 PM
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There's nothing wrong with looking at porn, I was completely open to watching it with my husband before I found out he had his own secret thing going on (he watches this one girl on MySpace who is 18!! and also keeps pictures of his "friends" on his phone and computer. Long story. 
Needless to say I changed my mind about sharing porn with him. I was much too disgusted and hurt to do any favors for him by then.
But generally, if you do it together and honestly, it can definitely benefit both of you and spice up your love life as well.  |
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Posted: Mar 24, 2008 - 04:42 PM
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| I think you ladies need to relax (i mean that in the most polite way possible) but really i mean hell i probably spend more time watching porn then my bf does and when he does i dont mind at all! and i love it when we watch it together... if just adds to fantasys and has created alot for me. i feel that us feeling upset or intimidated by it is the same as him saying he doesnt like us watching movies with sexy men, or having pictures of brad pitt. i think its healthy for him to look at porn or watch it, i feel it keeps our sexual life active and healthy. as long as hes not fantasizing about building a life with these women or any of that, as long as its just watching them do the deed i think that it is "a" ok |
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Posted: Apr 16, 2008 - 07:46 PM
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I just recently discovered my husband's "secret" stash of porn on his computer and mobile phone. I was shocked a bit, lately nothing really surprises me anymore though. But as I said in a post I made just today, I wouldn't mind it if he was open about it and not hiding it from me like his dirty little secret. It feels like he's enjoying keeping it from me on purpose, since I did present him with his favorite porn at one point and he showed no interest. That to me feels like I'm just being lied to.
In general though, porn is okay. I just wish he'd be willing to share this intimate activity with me. |
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Posted: Apr 17, 2008 - 05:10 AM
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| better porn than chatrooms. guys are always curious about other girls. heck, girls are curious about other girls...i say...i rather have a guy who has a healthy appetite than one without... |
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Posted: Nov 25, 2008 - 01:47 PM
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| If I add something here. A guy watching porn has everything to do with the guy and really very little to do with his girl, their relationship etc. We guys just enjoy watching girls do nasty things. If our girls did those things, we'd probably be less interested in seeing it online. The problem is that you are seeing it as a reflection of you, when it really has absolutely nothing to do with you. Which is also why your man usually doesn't want to watch porn with you, he wants to watch it by himself, in an empty house, and get his freak on. Porn is all about fantasy, since most men like porn, it's mostly male-oriented fantasies. So, unless you're willing to completely indulge men in their fantasies (like porn does) just relax and let porn do its job. Think about how deep and shameful your sexual fantasies can be. Then imagine your boyfriend asking you to watch them with him. It's not easy. It takes a lot of trust. ALOT! I would say open up to your fiance. Tell him about your fantasies, act out his. And don't judge! And remember whatever you can't give him, porn will |
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Posted: Nov 25, 2008 - 02:15 PM
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hey peep's
just wanted to add that my partner does also watch porn but he only watch's porn when im rather in bed or he's alone!!! he doesnt hide the fact that he's watched it!? because it's in the computer history,when i first came across this on our laptop i was like wat the fxxk lol and i asked him wat this was and wat he was doing looking at this? his reply was well u wuda gone off ur head....... in fact wat got me the most mad was that he was watching this stuff behind my back when i was in bed waiting 4him!!! well that's how it felt:- i wudnt mind if he did watched it in front of me i sopose! and ive also told him this!!! so i'll just have to wait and see wont i lol im not dead againt porn at all just havnt bin that in 2 it really i dont need porn to get me or my man off..lol another if i was to b watching some men lets say i reckon my partner wud go off his head... so in my eye i feel like it's one rule 4me and none 4him!? thanks 4listening dannii |
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Posted: Jan 01, 2009 - 11:32 PM
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I completely understand what you said in the first post. It also bothers me that my bf looks at pictures of naked women more than the videos. He watches porn everyday... I mean, the SECOND I leave to go to the gym he watches it and then hides it when I get back. We have sex everyday, sometimes more than once but he just sits there and watches it every second I'm not there. I'm out staying in shape, or doing groceries, or running errands and all he can think of doing is search "tight blonde teen" over and over. It drives me crazy.
I know all guys watch porn and I had accepted it but when I realised that's ALL he does when I'm not around? that makes me sick. We've played out all kinds of fantasies together and I try to be the best lover I can be but I guess nothing compares to some other girl. It makes me sick. I never want to leave the house anymore. I mean, there are SO many other things he could be doing. I understand when I go away with work for a few days, even a day. But when I just step out the door its like the first thing he does. And I can't confront him because I feel bad for having looked in his history.
I know I should be more mature about this but I know he would hate it if I sat around and looked at pictures of hot guys all the time. It makes me sick.
Sorry to vent guys, I know theres nothing wrong with porn, I've watched it. It's just HOW MUCH he watches... I don't know what to do... it's really hurting me... |
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Posted: Mar 10, 2009 - 09:02 PM
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Girls, I can tell you one thing for sure!!!! He won't be looking at Porn if he's happy with you. I'm a very sexually active person and my boyfriend is always getting what he wants. He has no desire for porn because I don't let him. I love him and won't lose him, but I know how to do this. When I'm not horny or feeling ill, I give him oral and I'm good at it. He loves this. Get good at this and give it to your man regularly and he won't look at that crap any more. 100 PERCENT GUARANTEE
We watch movies and pay tv all the time that we download for free. I taught him how to do that also and he was amazed. It's simple and the movies and shows are free, music too!
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Go there and watch real entertainment and save some money and time. AND for god's sake, STOP him from watching porn. NO matter what any of you say, it's degrading and you don't want him doing it!
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Posted: Jun 11, 2009 - 12:35 PM
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| My advice is: Get used to it ... and don't worry: it is normal. |
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