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serina
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 Posted: May 30, 2007 - 12:32 PM
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Most abused women are afraid to speak out. The reason: they feel that they would lose their husbands/boyfriends.
Is this true???
Are you a victim?
what have you got to say on this subject?[addsig] |
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michaelabri326
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Posted: Jun 14, 2007 - 08:21 PM
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| My Sister is actually getting out of an abusive relationship now. It was abusive in many ways, just recently physical for the first time 2 days ago after being together for about 1-2years, but also mentally abusive. He is an alcoholic and drug addict. He father has a history of the same thing including abusing the mom. I don't now if most abusers have those same characteristics, I don't know enough about it to make that evaluation, but I do know that is it very easy when you have father like that o follow in his foot steps. I dated someone that actually was slowly turning into his father. I actually had a child with him and he ended up abandoning us like his father did to an ex g/f many years before he was born. Anyway to answer the question, my sister has never been afraid to express the problems that her and him had or kind of still have. After the incident happened that she did get pushed around and beat up she was still actually going to try to talk it out, but when the next night he didn't come home until really late and didn't care about talking it out and instead started smoking crack in the house WITH THEIR baby in the house she said that was it and told me THAT was the straw that broke the camels back, so maybe if he wouldn't of came home and did that and "talked" to her instead they could still be together and she probably would of kept it a secret then considering it looked like she was going to until he did that the next night. [addsig] |
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mdavis760
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Posted: Mar 18, 2008 - 09:48 PM
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| I think there arre a number of reasons why women don't speak up. Some actually think it's their fault and they don't want to lose their bf/husband. Others are sometimes worried what other people will think and or are embarrassed that it is happening to them. There are also some that have been threatened if they tell. There are various reasons why women don't tell and everyone has a different reason why, so I think it is difficult to try to understand why women don't report ANY abuse. It's very sad and scary in this day and age, but it's still taboo in alot of places. |
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smackie9
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Posted: Mar 18, 2008 - 09:55 PM
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| Usually it's out of fear of retaliation......death threats, etc. I've even heard that the husband's family will blame the wife for the cause of the abuse. That it's her fault for making him so angry. Sick huh. That happened to my gf. |
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talia0803
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Posted: Mar 20, 2008 - 02:04 AM
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Fear of retaliation is definitely a factor but there is so much more to it than that.
Women who are physically abused are also being emotionally abused and manipulated and they often think they deserve what is happening to them and that it's their fault as another poster said.
It's a very complex issue and their needs to be more awareness campaigns and more resources available for women and children seeking help. |
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CatchAFallingStar
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Posted: Apr 17, 2008 - 02:54 PM
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| Some women enjoy the attention that their abusive mate gives them in the beginning especially if thats the only attention they get from him and they are in love, but after a while they just don't know how to be any other way or how to get out. |
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babyface
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Posted: Apr 17, 2008 - 03:33 PM
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| from my expercence these guys are grate to lick up ot there wifes 90% of the time .butter would not milt . baster** they wind there wife around there finger i have seen it happen , he looking into her eyswith loveing smiles half an hour after pining her to the wall , the flick sad tell her dont come crying on our door . |
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eva43
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Posted: Sep 10, 2008 - 10:55 PM
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| sad. I will pray for the situation |
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babyface
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Posted: Sep 18, 2008 - 03:23 PM
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| there are a lot of things that make girls stay , money , feer of the unknown , family and peer presure , wife betters can be the best husbands when they are not kicking the st1t out of there wife after all they dont give all the time killing there wife. I know one wife better he is the most romantice men in the world me husband would not come near him but my husband never hit me |
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joann
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Posted: Oct 03, 2008 - 06:46 PM
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My husband has only ever once 'raised his hand' to me, and that was my fault because, looking back, I did wind him up. He pushed me out of the house in the rain (I was barefoot) and told me to leave.
It's the only time, and he was sufficiently upset by what he'd done that I forgave him - and we had fun making up. 
I believe there is NO excuse for a man to be violent to a woman, nor the other way round. |
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