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neo20fl
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Post subject: Is she being fair?
 Posted: Aug 20, 2008 - 01:44 PM
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Hello everone,
This is my first time in this forum and I am here because I would like a woman's opinion on the matter and I appreciate whoever takes the time to respond to me, Thank you.
I have been dating this girl for almost a year however we are in a long distance relationship. She is in her last year of university in Ecuador and I work in Florida (We met when I lived in Ecuador). My family lives here in Miami and I work here, she is finishing her last year of university. Her family lives in Europe. She was going to come look for work in Florida after graduating and pursue her masters here however she has now decided she wants to go to Australia to get her masters there because her university has a special plan that would allow her to do her masters in one year. She is asking me to move with her there but I feel she is either not too serious about our relationship or being a little unfair asking me to move away from my family, job, friends and I also own a house here just to save one year on her masters.
Could I please have your opinion on the matter?
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mickie
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Post subject: RE: Is she being fair?
Posted: Aug 21, 2008 - 01:43 PM
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Do we follow our dreams?
Do we bloom where we are planted?
Does one excluded the other?
Life is such an adventure. |
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tallulah
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Post subject: RE: Is she being fair?
Posted: Aug 24, 2008 - 10:58 PM
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| I think in her mind she'd trying to make you feel better about the situation. She knows she wants to go to Australia, and shes young and free so why not... but theres probably a part of her that doesnt want to make you feel abandoned or unwanted. Now she asked you to go so she either a) knows you wont go, but wants you to b) knows you wont go and doesnt want you to , but doesnt want to put herself in a bad light (makes it seem like its your fault you split up) or c) really wants to go and really wants you to go with her, excited and happy about going could be a reason why she hasnt thought that you wont go. The only way youre going to get a truthful answer is to ask her luvvie!!! |
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Posted: Aug 25, 2008 - 06:08 AM
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| Dear, you don't own her. If this is what she thinks is best for her you should support her, it's not always about you. She is only letting you know you can say yes or no. Whatever you decide, take it from there. |
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fiesta
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Posted: Sep 02, 2008 - 01:09 AM
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I am a male and I agree with both Tallulah and Smackie9 on this. I think your g/f knows that you won't go. I also think that she believes you are a good person and doesn't have any ill will toward you (therefore she doesn't want to let you down hard). At the same time, I also think that regardless of hwat you would like, she is going to do exactly what she believes is right for her and evidently she prioritizes her relationship with you BELOW her education. She feels strongly enough about it that she's willing to gamble what amounts to essentially your life away on that. She's saying to you, it's important I do this for a year. More important than you are to me. If you value me so much, then give you your house, home, family, etc. etc. etc. and follow me. Otherwise, it's bye-bye for now.
Sorry to confirm that bad news, but in short, it ain't lookin' good for ya.
Cheers. |
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