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SADGIRL001
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Post subject: I am in the middle of my dad and my boyfriend.. HELP!!
 Posted: Feb 25, 2008 - 09:30 PM
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| My dad is very over protective.. He does not believe in 'living together", so i have kept my relationship secret for a year, we have been living together for 7 months now.. my dad found out and he is the type that will want to make my life miserable until thigns are done his way.. I love my boyfriend and I want to be with him but he does not want to talk to my dad. I can't face my dad because everytime he tells me something I cry so i would rather have my boyfriend talk to him since he is the "man" in my life.. am I wrong? |
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mickie
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Post subject: RE: I am in the middle of my dad and my boyfriend.. HELP!!
Posted: Feb 26, 2008 - 03:18 AM
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You should live your life.
It may not be the way your dad wants it.
BUT....It is your life and not his.
Boyfriend and dad may talk someday.
I would not rush that conversation. |
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vicky4987
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Post subject: RE: I am in the middle of my dad and my boyfriend.. HELP!!
Posted: Feb 27, 2008 - 07:36 PM
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| hun, im always stuck between my fiance and dad. he is way too overprotective. i want to move out, get married and have children. but my dad is all mardy and has a go at me all the time. But i would always put my fiance over my dad. It is your life hun, but i know what your feeling like. If you ever want to talk, please pm me |
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whraven
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Post subject: RE: I am in the middle of my dad and my boyfriend.. HELP!!
Posted: Feb 27, 2008 - 09:26 PM
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I understand your position and how you feel. It's terrible when a parent tries to make your life miserable because they don't agree with your choice. However, it is *your* dad, and it should really be you who talks to him. It's not your boyfriend's duty because he's the man. He should, however, be supportive of you and stand by you when you talk to your father. I realize this is going to be very difficult for you, but you're going to have to consider minimizing contact with your dad. As painful as that might be, you can't let him take away your happiness. You have a choice: tell your dad you won't talk to him if he's only going to try to take away your happiness, or give up your boyfriend. The former gives your dad a choice: accept your decision even if he doesn't agree, or lose his socialization with you.
It is so sad when these things happen, and I hope your boyfriend can be supportive of you in this difficult time and help you get through it. Of course, if he can't, you have another hard choice to make. |
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Post subject: RE: I am in the middle of my dad and my boyfriend.. HELP!!
Posted: Feb 28, 2008 - 10:51 PM
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| I have been in the same exact situation. My dad has always been very overprotective of me. When I met my boyfriend a year and a half ago we became inseperable. My boyfriend already owned his house so I literally moved in right away...it basically just happened nothing planned and of course my dad had a huge problem with this. You know what it is? They just want control of your life and when they feel like they are losing it that is when they make you feel bad. Every time I went over to visit my dad I would leave crying. Its definately a control thing. What I did was kept on going against his wishes...it was very very hard because I love my dad so much and I dont want to hurt him but on the other hand I am 26 and he has no right anymore to control or tell me what to do w/ my life. So in your situation I would DEFINATELY NOT force your boyfriend to talk to your dad especially since you both went behind his back...you need to sit down with your dad by yourself not with your boyfriend and set him straight. He may not like it but you know what? ....this is your life and YOU make the desisions now...not him. He may be pissed about it in the beginning but BELIEVE ME he will come around. You really have to be strong when it comes to standing up to your dad....it was very hard for me but believe me if he loves you (which I am sure he does) he will get over it and be okay with it. |
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JessieGirl
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Post subject: RE: I am in the middle of my dad and my boyfriend.. HELP!!
Posted: Mar 11, 2008 - 03:59 PM
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Wow, I was there myself a little over a year ago... of course, I was living with my parents, and the boyfriend was staying with me there. Both of my parents didn't like my boyfriend, but I am not living my life for anyone but MYSELF... so I let my parents know that. I am not going to push the love of my life away because you don't approve... sure enough, they got to know him, and they finally see what I've seen since day one.  Sit down and talk with your dad... it may help a lot! |
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kyla1980
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Post subject: RE: I am in the middle of my dad and my boyfriend.. HELP!!
Posted: Apr 24, 2008 - 02:36 PM
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| Well whatever you do just don't alienate yourself from your family because they will blame him. Always just keep in touch to let them know you are happy and healthy and that you are an adult and your life is your own. |
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CrystalLee
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Post subject: RE: I am in the middle of my dad and my boyfriend.. HELP!!
Posted: Apr 29, 2008 - 01:45 PM
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Live your life....its your choice to live with who you want...however dont lock ou your family...sit down and try to talk to him explain how much your bf means to you and that you want both of them in your life trust me when your dad sees how serious youare about that boy he wil change his mind...try not to cry it will all work out  |
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