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Post subject: Prenuptual agreement
 Posted: Mar 28, 2008 - 07:49 PM
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| Would you ever sign a prenuptual agreement if your boyfriend ask you to? Why or why not? |
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Post subject: RE: Prenuptual agreement
Posted: Mar 29, 2008 - 06:11 PM
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| Yes I would! Because I'm the one that owns everything, including the house. So I can truly relate to what guys go through when the wife takes everything. Marriage counselors do encourage you to get one anyways. |
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Posted: Mar 30, 2008 - 11:53 AM
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| why not it is much better to know where everybody stands |
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Posted: Mar 30, 2008 - 03:55 PM
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| They also say to have separate bank accounts and have the joint account to just pay the bills ie: phone, electricity, etc.... I don't have a joint account with my guy. His money is his and mine is mine. There is no fighting over money ever. If he wants to buy a big flat screen tv or a 12,000 motorcycle, then so be it. The dept isn't mine. |
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Posted: Apr 03, 2008 - 10:19 AM
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smackie9 wrote:
They also say to have separate bank accounts and have the joint account to just pay the bills ie: phone, electricity, etc.... I don't have a joint account with my guy. His money is his and mine is mine. There is no fighting over money ever. If he wants to buy a big flat screen tv or a 12,000 motorcycle, then so be it. The dept isn't mine.
seams fair to me, Iam no experct on french law but i belive that even if one inherets something befour or after marrage the other cant win from this , it yours or hers if you brake up |
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Posted: Apr 08, 2008 - 09:44 PM
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| I always say I wanna get a prenup but it just seems too cruel sometimes. I guess it;s better to get it |
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smackie9
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Posted: Apr 09, 2008 - 03:44 AM
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| It's not cruel at all. I find it to be the most responsible and mature thing to do. It's not saying that doing it means the relationship will be doomed. It's just a good way to make sure if in the event of a separation there won't be any fighting or lawyers involved. It's no different than having a will or a life insurance policy, which is usually something that most people do when they get married. I think it will make both of you feel more secure about your relationship. |
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Posted: Apr 09, 2008 - 05:10 PM
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i used to think that those kind of agreements doom a marriage and basically mean that the partner suggesting it is already trying to find a way out BUT i completely changed my mind about this.
i agree with smackie that it is a mature thing to do. i don't want to be the one accused of being fond of his money or his house. it wasn't mine to start with and being married doesn't make it mine either. he's just willing to share.
and i think many women have a different opinion on this once they think about what they would to if everything has been bought from their money and now someone tries to get 50% or more from it! |
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Posted: Apr 17, 2008 - 02:50 PM
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| Prenup all the way. Separate bank accounts are also good business. Gifts are different but separate money alleviates a lot of stress. Your man doesn't need to know how much you spend on a shopping trip much less how much you make. I keep several bank accounts And tuck away my financial information. Relationships are complicated enough. |
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Posted: Apr 17, 2008 - 05:11 PM
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| cathafalling star, you sound like you have trust issues. but i def agree about the prenup, that's a good idea. i'm not sure how i feel about keeping the money seperate though. i'm very independent and make waaaaaay more money than my bf, which he is cool with and very supportive of. but if i love you then i operate under the guise of "what's your is mine." he does a lot of stuff that contributes to my being successful at work, so why shouldn't he have access to what i bring home and vice versa. |
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Posted: Apr 17, 2008 - 05:19 PM
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| it becomes an issue when one starts to critisize what the money is being spent on. As long as the bills are being payed there should be no issue. But when a mate starts blowin your hard earned cash on things you feel are a waste, then it does become an issue. Everything is nice at the beginning, but when kids and responsabilties such as a mortgage are involved you will be thinking differently about where the money should go, when he's thinking about that 60" big sceen tv he should buy. |
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Posted: Apr 17, 2008 - 05:20 PM
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| You will change your tune when he gets half of what you worked hard for if you both split. |
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Posted: Apr 24, 2008 - 02:22 PM
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Maybe a compromise between catchafallingstars line of thinking and mighty aphrodity would be a joint account with some money in it for the spouse to play with but not all of the money you earn.
SideBar: Aphrodity you let your boyfriend have access to your checking account? |
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