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GreenSea
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Post subject: 2968
 Posted: Nov 10, 2006 - 01:43 AM
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Hello, I am new to the forum and still don't know the cultures here so if I say anything inappropriate plz let me know ~|^_^|~
I am 27 years old, my wife is also 27 years old, we have been together since we were 18 years old, married in early 2004, she asked to end relationship about a month ago. It was, and is still very difficult for me. I've found some reasons why what I thought was a perfect love went wrong, but with her limited response, ego, and wanting to leave, I don't get much feedback, I still want her back.
I had issues since we got married, mainly around the topics of:
- Freedom
- Trust
- Socialising
I've been stressed with work, my work is mainly to deal with problems. So all day I would hear problems and work condition wasn't great, plus I worked alone in the whole office. I end up coming home with only problems to tell and nothing new to talk about for over a year and no friends. I became trapped and when she asked for separation, my world just fell apart into pieces.
What now:
A lot happened as a series of chain reactions derived from the three main topics above. I realise everything now, but looks like its too late, typical, I was in a tunnel and just saw the light, I can give her all that she needs, but looks like the glass is broken and all my blood I am pouring in just leaks out and the glass doesn't seem to get full.
She now socialises and goes out all the time, not picking up my calls when she's out even when she comes back at 3am when she told me she'll be back at 7pm, not calling me when she's not coming home.
She's flirting with a lot of people at her work, always text message this guy from her work on her phone with sweet and support-seeking messages, but at the same time flirting with others. She's been seeing him for long time now, her friends know about him, and I have to pretend to be a fool.
She would lie to me that its nothing when I talk to her whether she's seeing someone else or have feelings for anyone. She says she wants to find herself, need to care about herself only and only herself right now, but at the same time she says that there's a chance between us to get back together again.
What do the women here think? With all that she's doing, and knowing that I am willing to give it 10,000% to make things work, what could she really be feeling? If you've seen this happened before, do you think there's a chance for us again?[addsig] |
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smackie9
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Post subject: 2996
Posted: Nov 13, 2006 - 08:50 PM
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| Jack.....post this under the sex and dating section for better results.[addsig] |
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GypsyCowgirl
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Posted: Mar 17, 2008 - 04:40 PM
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| if you two have been together since you were 18... she probably just wants to go out and experiance independence..find herself... and in all honsty i think you should do the same.... a couple months ago marriage was all i wanted... i mean i really wanted to marry my ex but after we broke up and i moved away.. i became independent and now.. well im not in the rush to get married like i once was.. i enjoy discovering who i am... i mean i have a boyfriend, but we arent rushing anything! i think everyone has to live their llife and figure out who they are and have differnt experiances before they really settle down... i believe if your wife and you really love eachother then all will work out. just give her time, space, freedom and i think you should do the same... just always be there for her and make sure she knows that |
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smackie9
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Posted: Mar 17, 2008 - 05:17 PM
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| This is an update: They are now separated and have been for sometime. He has had to give up a lot of things like his dogs because of where he moved to won't accomidate them. We talk on a regular basis and is doing much better. He is keeping busy and building up a social life. No gf yet but he is optimistic. He is even considering moving from Australia to England in the future. |
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CatchAFallingStar
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Posted: Apr 17, 2008 - 02:44 PM
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| whoa, funny how things change. |
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