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CrystalLee
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Post subject: Sex Drive
 Posted: Mar 14, 2008 - 02:24 AM
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| Me and my BF have been together for years however it seems that the past few months he has drifted away from me and we no longer have sex...he says there is nothing wrong and that he loves me. However it seems sex is out of the question. Any advice on what to do... |
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lovelyfreya
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Post subject: RE: Sex Drive
Posted: Mar 14, 2008 - 08:09 AM
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I no how you feel in some sense my b,f is older than me and i have such a high sex drive its inberivable but when we do have sex its amazing!
maybe try some really sexy things like ! sumprising his with some dirty talk and new posotions . |
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Post subject: RE: Sex Drive
Posted: Mar 14, 2008 - 03:42 PM
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| I really feel for your position. It often seems that women are supposed to 'put out' for guys when they don't feel like it but not the other way around. If this relationship is important to him, I'd think he'd want to work out something that you can both be happy with. After all, this is an important part of a relationship, and it really needs to work for both people. Sometimes couples' therapy can help. If he's not willing to work this out with you, you have a really painful choice before you: do you give up this part of your relationship because the rest of it is enough to compensate you, or is it important enough to consider this relationship can't work long term. I really hope this works out for you. |
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Posted: Mar 15, 2008 - 12:15 AM
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| Scary thought, but if he is young and has drifted away from you like that it sometimes spells "having an affair". Or he had a one time thing and he is feeling guilty. You need to discuss this further with him and maybe mention the affair thing. It might not be that but it might draw out what is really going on. A change in a relationship like this is a serious thing and shouldn't be ignored too long. |
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CrystalLee
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Posted: Mar 15, 2008 - 12:30 AM
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| its been like this for months we have moved to a new province and really dont know any one...i dont think its an affair but good idea i should definately look into that..thanks |
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smackie9
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Posted: Mar 15, 2008 - 07:45 PM
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CrystalLee
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Posted: Mar 15, 2008 - 08:47 PM
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| Nova Scotia Actually but i am a newfoundlander born and breed...lol |
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Posted: Mar 15, 2008 - 09:59 PM
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CrystalLee
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Posted: Mar 16, 2008 - 06:06 AM
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Posted: Mar 20, 2008 - 02:07 AM
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There are lots of things you guys can do to get your sex life back on track, one of my favorites are sexy games. There are actually a lot of them out there. They are fun and easy and best of all sexy. It might be just what you need to break the ice and get back to the intimacy.
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Posted: Mar 21, 2008 - 03:08 AM
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| CrystalLee, what's been going on? Have you talked to him about your situation? Have you discovered anything new? I see you posted about spicing things up. Well I think figuring out the root of all this may get you back on track. Sometimes guys don't want to show that they are weak. He maybe stressing over something and doesn't know how to talk to you about it. How about a nice dinner with candles lit and some wine to get things rolling. |
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Posted: Mar 27, 2008 - 09:10 PM
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| This is a very interesting question. Everyone agrees how important sex is in a relationship or marriage. Now.. When one is no longer interested in that aspect of the relationship, but wants to keep the rest of if...should the other half be content to do without? Should the partner witholding EXPECT them to do without? Keep in mind this couple have a very good relationship besides that factor.. but the one thats been put on the shelf so to speak feels like they can not cope with a sexless life, yet they too dont want to end the relationship because of it.. so.. whats next? Guess I just added more questions to the orginal one.. |
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CrystalLee
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Posted: Mar 30, 2008 - 05:03 PM
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UPDATE:
We have talked about it and come to the conclusion that he is just super stressed with the move and the new enviroment and we have had a bumpy road financially and we both think we are going to be ok...THANKS FOR THE SUGGESTIONS GUYS...  |
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