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Post subject: Daughter and Mother Relationship
 Posted: Jan 21, 2008 - 06:51 PM
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| My 24 year old single daughter and I have run around together, errands, shopping, you name it, we've done it. Here's the problem that I think didn't just come up, it must have been festering and came to a point Saturday. I'm forever being ask by her friends or aqaintances that don't know me if I'm her older sister. We both look alike, really I do see that we could pass for siblings. We're both same height, weight, build, complexion......I mean if I weren't me, I probably would make the same mistake. I always tell whomever that I'm her mom and I get the oddest looks like the person can't believe it. I always took it for a complement, my husband when we are out always has clients telling him that he married a young chick. I am not old but I'm not young, as in my daughter's age......I had her when I was 15. Now for the rub, my daughter is getting tired of me being there with her and having to listen to new aqaintances asking about her older sister and she or I having to tell her the mom statement. I've even been ask out by a 25-ish guy that thought I was younger. I am flattered by the attention but my daughter doesn't think it's so nice, almost like we're in competition. Now she is a good looking 24 year old that finished college and went on for her masters and has foregone regular dating until she gets her career started first, now she interested in guys and she must think I am interest in her guys......NOT!!!!!! And I've told her that!!!!!!!! Because we look 2 or 3 years different, height, weight, and build she gets hit on just as much as I do but she knows how to put someone in their place if she's not interested. Other than just avoiding my daughter and not going with her when she ask me to go, I'm at a loss as to what to do. Believe me, I don't flirt or ask for any advances that I've experienced and my daughter has witnessed that. She just doesn't understand why a nice, good looking 25 or 26 year old guy will hit on me first, I tell them I'm her mother, then they hit on her.......jeolousy maybe??? My only clue to this was she told me, most of her friends moms have already gained weight and are beginning to show their age. She also told me there isn't any way she would go somewhere with me to where she and I were both in a bathing suit because I probably would wear a bikini. I wear a bikini for my husband when on vacations in secluded areas and I wear a regular one piece everywhere else. My daughter's only comment is 'Mom we can't hide our breasts even when we try'. I plead guilty. Help, any ideas. |
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Posted: Jan 22, 2008 - 12:35 AM
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alright, not sure i got it all so let me recap.
when you and your daughter are out you get hit on first and this bothers your daughter.
is that it?
I'm your daughters age so I am assuming there's something else behind this as well.  know myself
if i don't want to date but see others hitting on my mom, that would be a problem for me too. but the thing is, it's not my moms problem, it's mine! if i can't stand flirting (and i don't think it is so much because your the "mom") then maybe i shouldn't put myself in situations where flirting might result (meaning bars, clubs etc).
i don't think you should put the problem unto yourself. you look like you look, that's it. yeah, you can't hide your boobs, but so can't she (i'm assuming). it does sound a little like jealousy but i think more because of her choice not to date.
maybe its like spring when you are single but everyone else seems to be having that special someone and is happily strolling along in the park *yuck* |
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Posted: Feb 19, 2008 - 04:16 PM
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My husband told my daughter over the weekend that I get hit on by younger guys and get jeers from women that work for his company when we go to company functions, Christmas parties, etc. and that's news to me. He told her that younger guys are always telling him how lucky he is to have married a younger chick and they are amazed to find out my age. The only thing that would have even slightly resembled someone hitting on me was one of his bosses that was in his 60's saying that if he were 20 years younger and we both were available he'd make a move on me, and then joked in front of my husband, or maybe we don't even have to be available. Standing right next to my husband I said, well then only one of us would be available then because I'm not.
My husband thinks that my daughter is insecure of her looks. She is 5-3 120#, blonde hair, blue eyes, 39-22-37, blemishfree olive skin and almost mirrors myself except for 10# somewhere and one inch somewhere. They both went riding for 4 or 5 hours together and if I didn't trust them I would have worried but when they got back she hugged my neck sobbing, told me she loved me and that she said that I had a jewel of a husband, and I agree. In those 4 or 5 hours he was a motivater/psyciatrist/analyst/psycologist and any other label one could put on someone that was able to help to figure someone out. My husband became to my daughter a major father figure in those 4 or 5 hours and that was when she let him into her life. We'll see where this goes.
After everything he told me that they talked about, I was so turned on that I couldn't hardly control myself, but I let him finish telling me details and after that we spent hours on end in the jacuzzi and then in bed. I'm thinking that my daughter will be just fine after this weekend.
And to think that when I woke up Saturday morning I was just hoping to unwind and relax to a normal weekend. |
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