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littledarlins
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Post subject: strained
 Posted: Nov 13, 2007 - 12:38 PM
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Joined: Nov 07, 2007
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Location: vermont
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 I began a new relationship last year with a man who values the notion that man is the ruler of the house and should have the last word. He moved in and we both decided that we would put my house on the market and buy one together so he didn't feel like he was living in MY house. His need for dominacy does cause issues with me as I am very liberal and have the control of my house and my daughter(age13) for 8 years. Though the biggest issue is between him and my daughter. He never lived with his daughter and has a very difficult time dealing with my daughter's fledging independance. Needless to say she is very independent herself with a sharp mind and is very dramatic, She doesn't like him and shows as much disrespect as possible, sometimes she lies even to me to put herself into the better light. I have been accused of not supporting him, though I do not believe that he is always in the right. I think he is being petty sometimes, Other times I have taken her beloved computer away for a length of time. I have suggested a parenting class to be taken together..seems ok with that...Any other suggestions? the fighting is slowly erroding the relationship. help |
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Coldliz
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Post subject: RE: strained
Posted: Nov 13, 2007 - 07:46 PM
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It's good that he is willing to take parenting classes with you, but in my opinion that won't fix things.
He sounds like a man set in his ways and that's ok if you're ok with it. If he is already asking you to change things (such as selling your house because of his manly ego) It's only going to get worse for you later. If he is this controlling already he is only going to go down hill if you keep giving in to him. Personally I would not have sold my house and if my child didn't like the person I was with, I wouldn't be with them. Your daughter comes first. I'm sorry but I don't see a happy ending for this relationship.
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